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Larckin

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HI! I am Larckin. I'm a poly girl living life to the fullest! I have been in the poly LS for nearly 9 years. Our poly dynamic is a little complicated to explain, but it really works well for all 4 of us. I'm looking forward to connecting with other poly people, as I truly believe support is a key part of making this lifestyle choice work. :D
 
Greetings Larckin,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

We have lots of good members on this site; I'm sure you'll be able to form some connections. It's encouraging to hear that you have a good amount of experience at poly. Who knows, what but you might be able to help some people here? and, whatever support you need, we'll try to be here for you.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Hello and Welcome!

What does your poly "lifestyle" look like? Are the four of you a quad or N/Z or some other config? Are you open or closed to new people? Do you all live together? (There are so many permutations!:D) I think every poly dynamic is "complicated" because each situation is unique.

I found this forum when I was several months into my relationship with Dude and felt the need to share my mistakes and look for support. So I started a blog here (my "Journey" blog) which helped me clarify, for myself, how I got to the place where I was (at that time).

I hope you find your time with us fruitful.

JaneQ
 
I feel so welcomed. :D

I'll do my best to explain our world. hehe

L- me, of course. I'm married to S, have been for 17 years. We live together with our kids. We are best friends and life partners. We started swinging but moved to poly 11 years ago.

Y- is S's gf of 4 yrs. This is a vee relationship, but it has many triad qualities. Y and I are great friends and cuddle buddies. We have frequent girl dates, but we are not sexual. S and Y are closed and poly-fidelitous. S stays with Y 2 nights a week and Y is at our house every weekend, usually for the whole weekend. She is very involved with our family and kids.

D is my bf and dom of 2 years. He and S have very little contact with each other, save a few conversations. We see each other once a week, and usually once on the weekends, if our work schedules allow. We occasionally swing together but are otherwise closed.


It sounds terribly complicated, but actually it works really well.
 
A little complicated, maybe, but it sounds as though you have stable configuration where each person can get their needs met and each relationship has time to be fostered.

JaneQ

PS. I would suggest that you come up with aliases for your partners/metamours - that makes it easier for readers to follow than just initials.
 
That's not so complicated, just a good zig-zag of 4. It's good to have such a great friendship+ with your spouse's partner. My husband and my girlfriend are pretty good drinking buddies. Sometimes she comes over when he's in town and I'm out of town, and they have beers by the campfire. Her husband and I are polite but not bffs or anything.

I too would enjoy aliases.
 
Sounds like an N to me. Similar to my configuration, where I'm married to Roger and each of us has another partner (see my signature). Roger and Jack are good friends too, so that helps tremendously.

Thirded on aliases. It can actually protect them even more than initials, because there's no reference to their actual names. :)

Looking forward to hearing more!
 
Great idea!
I just noticed a typo in my post earlier. Guess I was distracted. :) It is supposed to say we started out swinging 11 years ago, but ventured into poly 9 years ago.
 
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