Firstly, I would like to introduce myself…
I’m gay male from Europe, 30 years old and at the moment single.
Now, the situation:
I’ve been in relationship with my ex Luka for 3 years and it was really great, we loved each other and broke up because he was cheating on me. Of course, I was devastated, but so was he in a way. We broke up 2 years ago, and spent 6 months without any contact. In May 2015., we started to talk again, I met his boyfriend Marko (since we share the same circle of friends), and after some time I have fallen in love with his new boyfriend Marko and we started having an affair (Marko and me). Marko loves Luka, but he has some strong feelings for me as well and that’s why we continued to see each other. In the same time, I would lie to myself, or anybody else, that all my feelings for Luka have disappeared, I still care for him and feel awful because I can’t tell him what’s happening behind his back.
Marko and me, we have started thinking about including me into their relationship. At this moment, we are not completely sure if Luka would like that but Luka’s relationship with me changed as well in the past few months and we are becoming closer day by day (he comes to my place when seeking advice, tells us how he likes a lot when the three of us hang out together, makes plans for us three, invites me to have a beer with him (without Marko) and then tells me that the he had a wonderful time…) but I still cannot be sure about his feelings. He was always a bit anxious and unsure about everything. The three of us also share a group chat on facebook and chat all day long.
I had a conversation with Marko a few days ago and he is sad that he cannot share his feelings with the both of us in the same time. I feel the same, and don’t like the situation where I’m doing something behind my ex’s back. I know, that if he finds out what’s happening, he would be devastated as I was when he was doing the same thing to me and that everything would end for us.
I’m not a mean person, and I’m not doing anything with Marko just because I want to hurt him. I truly care for them but Luka and I are currently in front of the brick wall. We are trying to make this happen, but are unsure how to continue from this point on. Also, we are aware that we can fail, and we discuss about failure all the time, just to make sure that we don’t loose our heads in the process.
Thank you for reading this. Hopefully, my English was good enough so that you get the picture about my situation. I would really appreciate if you could give me/us some advice. We are trying so hard to make this happen and to make our lives richer and more fulfilling.
I’m sending you warm greetings and hope for some kind guidelines from you.
I’m gay male from Europe, 30 years old and at the moment single.
Now, the situation:
I’ve been in relationship with my ex Luka for 3 years and it was really great, we loved each other and broke up because he was cheating on me. Of course, I was devastated, but so was he in a way. We broke up 2 years ago, and spent 6 months without any contact. In May 2015., we started to talk again, I met his boyfriend Marko (since we share the same circle of friends), and after some time I have fallen in love with his new boyfriend Marko and we started having an affair (Marko and me). Marko loves Luka, but he has some strong feelings for me as well and that’s why we continued to see each other. In the same time, I would lie to myself, or anybody else, that all my feelings for Luka have disappeared, I still care for him and feel awful because I can’t tell him what’s happening behind his back.
Marko and me, we have started thinking about including me into their relationship. At this moment, we are not completely sure if Luka would like that but Luka’s relationship with me changed as well in the past few months and we are becoming closer day by day (he comes to my place when seeking advice, tells us how he likes a lot when the three of us hang out together, makes plans for us three, invites me to have a beer with him (without Marko) and then tells me that the he had a wonderful time…) but I still cannot be sure about his feelings. He was always a bit anxious and unsure about everything. The three of us also share a group chat on facebook and chat all day long.
I had a conversation with Marko a few days ago and he is sad that he cannot share his feelings with the both of us in the same time. I feel the same, and don’t like the situation where I’m doing something behind my ex’s back. I know, that if he finds out what’s happening, he would be devastated as I was when he was doing the same thing to me and that everything would end for us.
I’m not a mean person, and I’m not doing anything with Marko just because I want to hurt him. I truly care for them but Luka and I are currently in front of the brick wall. We are trying to make this happen, but are unsure how to continue from this point on. Also, we are aware that we can fail, and we discuss about failure all the time, just to make sure that we don’t loose our heads in the process.
Thank you for reading this. Hopefully, my English was good enough so that you get the picture about my situation. I would really appreciate if you could give me/us some advice. We are trying so hard to make this happen and to make our lives richer and more fulfilling.
I’m sending you warm greetings and hope for some kind guidelines from you.
