Hi everyone, I’m 30 years old woman
I never thought I would be in situation like this.
I am with my partner M (32, male) in a ten-year relationship. We love each other and there is no discussion about it.
A few years ago we met our friend D (30, male) with whom we have a great relationship. With time, due to various circumstances, we moved in with each other. We created something that reminded us of a small family, and I realized that I felt something more than just friendship towards our roommate. I will fall in love with D while loving M. It lasted for several years, I didn’t tell anyone about it, I decided it was an episode. I kept it inside myself. D had a few girlfriends in the meantime, and Mand I were having a good time and I was happy.
A few months ago it turned out that we had to move out of our apartment. The three of us will fall apart. And it wouldn't be that bad in the end, but a month ago, after a party, when I was drunk, I told D the truth. He has felt the same for several years. And he knew I was unavailable because I was his best friend's girlfriend.
I feel terrible, I feel like I'm cheating on M, I love them both, and because D knows, our relationship has changed. I would like to tell M about all this, but I cannot. I'm afraid to lose him. I also suffer when I know that D is not doing well now either. I made a huge mistake and have no idea how to fix it. Wait? Live on as if nothing ever happened? I don’t know.
I never thought I would be in situation like this.
I am with my partner M (32, male) in a ten-year relationship. We love each other and there is no discussion about it.
A few years ago we met our friend D (30, male) with whom we have a great relationship. With time, due to various circumstances, we moved in with each other. We created something that reminded us of a small family, and I realized that I felt something more than just friendship towards our roommate. I will fall in love with D while loving M. It lasted for several years, I didn’t tell anyone about it, I decided it was an episode. I kept it inside myself. D had a few girlfriends in the meantime, and Mand I were having a good time and I was happy.
A few months ago it turned out that we had to move out of our apartment. The three of us will fall apart. And it wouldn't be that bad in the end, but a month ago, after a party, when I was drunk, I told D the truth. He has felt the same for several years. And he knew I was unavailable because I was his best friend's girlfriend.
I feel terrible, I feel like I'm cheating on M, I love them both, and because D knows, our relationship has changed. I would like to tell M about all this, but I cannot. I'm afraid to lose him. I also suffer when I know that D is not doing well now either. I made a huge mistake and have no idea how to fix it. Wait? Live on as if nothing ever happened? I don’t know.