Hi I'm Brazen

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Brazen

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Hi there, I'm Brazen (bi, f, 50). I've been in an ENM relationship with Plaid (m, 50) for 6 years. We don't live together, for a number of reasons, including a need for independence. That may change one day, but no firm plans.

I have had casual no-strings relationships. Plaid has a FWB. We occasionally swing together and apart.

I feel I'm poly, but don't have the capacity atm, plus I hate dating apps!! Plaid seems to be dipping his toes into poly now with a potential relationship with a woman he has known for years.

So, I guess I'm along for the ride and advice. 😀
 
Welcome to our board! It sounds like you've had some good ENM experience. You can post on our Relationships section with any questions you may have about how to practice polyamory. Also, you can read around our board by clicking on What's New, or by searching for specific topics.

Also, you could try reading the book Opening Up, by Taormino, for starters. She does a great job explaining the differences between swinging and polyamory, and provides tons of information about how to be successful in living with and loving multiple people.
 
Thank you so much. I will read that.

I have had casual relationships with poly people and there are active poly groups where I live. I guess I have never found my groove, so far. However, Plaid and I, through trial and error, understand the importance of open communication.

We have had lovely swinging experiences with others who became friends. However, emotional connection beyond that we have avoided until now. But we both want this now.

My opportunity has not presented itself yet and I'm in no rush. Too much going on! For Plaid it has, and I want to support him.
 
Greetings Brazen,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you and Plaid are kind of transitioning from swing into poly. You have a good bit of experience in the former, but the latter is kind of new for you. I hope you will find Polyamory.com to be a good resource for advice and information, I think you will. Just invest some time in reading and posting on our various threads and boards, and let us know whenever you have any questions. I'm glad you could join us!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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Welcome aboard!
 
Thanks Kevin 😀

Yes we are transitioning slowly. We are pretty autonomous whilst swinging. For example, Plaid is off for fun with some friends of ours today. A previous lover of mine just picked him up from my house and I am really happy for him. However, I know it will all be non-emotional fun (apart from the friendship-level love he has for them). I will keep reading and communicating. Thank you again.
 
No problem. It sounds like you have a healthy dynamic so far.
 
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