So after a lot of experimenting, heartache and self reflection I have realised I am a poly and can’t do “normal”. I’m too openminded and adventurous for a monogamous relationship. It’s hard finding someone in my area in South Africa who is like this. Seeing what this online forum is like and hopefully discover more about it and so more about myself.
Greetings Candy,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
It sounds like you are just in the early stages of your poly journey, well you are just now realizing you are poly, but have experimented in the past. You can learn a lot about poly here, just explore our threads and boards and let us know whenever any questions arise for you, also who knows, people may come to you for help or advice.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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After a lot of experimenting, heartache and self-reflection, I have realised I am poly and can’t do “normal." I’m too openminded and adventurous for a monogamous relationship. It’s hard finding someone in my area in South Africa who is like this. Seeing what this online forum is like and hopefully discover more about it and so more about myself.
Have fun reading around. There are thousands of posts here going back over more than 15 years, from people who feel like you. Polyamory is normal. It has always been normal for me. Some people claim to be hard-wired to be monoamorous, but I think for most of is, it is cultural brainwashing. Most of us have to tamp down having loving romantic feelings, or even sexual attraction, for more than one person at a time.
If it weren't normal to be polyamorous or polysexual, we wouldn't need to have so many laws against it.
For some science on this (written for the layman), do check out the book Sex at Dawn. It should help.
There is a big list of other poly resources in our Golden Nuggets section.
