How many people have given up on finding their Soulmates?

How many people have given up on finding their Soulmates?

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I'm not sure everyone has (a) soulmate/s, and maybe it doesn't matter. Love is so hard to find, maybe it's good enough if we can find (a) good match/es. Perhaps the question could even be asked, "What is a soulmate?" I haven't given up on that search, but I admit I'm not looking hard either.
 
kdt26417 said:
I'm not sure everyone has (a) soulmate/s, and maybe it doesn't matter. Love is so hard to find, maybe it's good enough if we can find (a) good match/es. Perhaps the question could even be asked, "What is a soulmate?" I haven't given up on that search, but I admit I'm not looking hard either.
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Yes, I really like your answer kdt, I feel it's a form of self evident love without the trickery involved. Like the idea of having a mind, you wouldn't have to convince your mind that it's your mind. That's what I'm getting at in a Sense.
 
First you have to define soul mate.
 
I would say that first we need to define soulmate.
 
My late husband was my soulmate and I have my doubts that I will find another one in my lifetime. It’s like trying to catch lightning in a bottle.
 
I guess I kind of don't believe in soul mates and never have. I've met a man and a woman and they are great for me, a thousand times better than anyone I ever met. They are my people and I'm happy, but neither they nor I are perfect. There is no such thing. And meanwhile, I'm not naive enough to believe that if they were gone that there would be NO one else in the world I could like as much or better (and the same for them with me). The odds of finding those people are more difficult. In short, I think love and relationships, and even monogamy (polyamory too) all work better when people don't start out by accepting and relishing in Romantic myths.
 
This is a much deeper question that it might sound on the surface. I, too, am unsure if a ‘soulmate’ necessarily exists. I’d have to be completely connected with myself first and know myself much more honestly than I do now to consider the possibility
 
Think one can have many soulmates, come in different forms and not only for a romantic relationship. Like a pet or an animal-friend, family or a (human, lol)-friend.

Have three soulmates. One is an ex, my mother and my late grandfather.
 
I actually think I found my true soulmate after I started a new guy. Was so not expecting that to happen but I’ve never clicked with someone so intently like we have
 
After decades, I kind of came to the conclusion that my only 'real', 'true' and '100 percent authentic' soul mate is... Me :) That's because I know Me pretty well LoL, I always stand by my side, am available for chats and cuddles for Me 24/7 and I never cease to surprise and amuse my self even after all these years, haha.

But, jokes aside, I still believe in the soulmate concept but now more like: multiple lives/incarnations and multiple soulmates also within the same lifetime as a possibility. I came to recognize the many many (many many...) layers of my soul and existence, and so to me it seems more logical that there can be multiple soulmates coming my way depending on which side or aspect of me needs a growth in wisdom.

I also had some really important people in my story that I was in love with deeply and, frankly, I would struggle to pick 'The One' since they all contributed to my learning and self-expression in major ways. So, I would say that I already encountered soulmates and I'm open for more! 🧡😚


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It’s a hard idea, things in reality are more complex than we often like to show them. I reject the idea that there is ONE person out there for you to fall in love with. Bleh! I reject the idea that love is just romance. I love my wife, and my kids, and my family, and close friends . . .

Our culture has done a great job in convincing us that we have ONE person out there that we WILL marry (and possibly love). My closest friend is in her 40s, living an amazing life, is happier and more content than she ever imagined, and has no interest in romance or marriage. She feels no need to find a soulmate, she has “soul friends” and “soul family” already.
 
Wocky said:
It’s a hard idea, things in reality are more complex than we often like to show them. I reject the idea that there is ONE person out there for you to fall in love with. Bleh! I reject the idea that love is just romance. I love my wife, and my kids, and my family, and close friends . . .

Our culture has done a great job in convincing us that we have ONE person out there that we WILL marry (and possibly love). My closest friend is in her 40s, living an amazing life, is happier and more content than she ever imagined, and has no interest in romance or marriage. She feels no need to find a soulmate, she has “soul friends” and “soul family” already.
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The cool thing is, even Disney has given up on the idea of the passive princess, isolated, asleep or dead in a tower, bed or coffin, to be woken by love's first kiss and married to her prince, to live happily ever after. We've had several princesses in the 21st century who do not end up in some kind of monogamous relationship.
 
If you think you have the best relationship in the whole world, better than the movies, chances are it is it.

If you are in love with someine you think is better than you (prettier, nicer, etc) and they say the exact thing about you, and you even get into a deferential argument about it, chances are it is it.

If they put up with stuff you do and no one else in the world does that, and you do the same for them, chances are it is it.

If no one else compares because they are your yardstick you compare every other prospect to, chances are it is it.

If thinking about living with them the rest of your life and that does not faze or frighten you one bit, chances are it is it.

If you cannot stand members of your family but they love them all and by choice, chances are it is it.

If you cannot wait to see them and they constantly give you an aesthetic reward, chances are it is it.

But what do I know?
 
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