I´m new at forums, so I´m sorry if I'm doing something wrong.
I'm a woman and more than a year ago I met this guy, I developed a crush on him and told him. He said he couldn't be with me because he has a girlfriend (still has, they've been together 4 years now), so we stay as friends.
However, our relationship developed and he confessed he has feelings for me, we talked a lot and he decided to say this to his partner and we began therapy with the only purpose to see if this can work. We have never kissed nor sleep together becase we want all of this to be sane and consensual from everyone.
Till here everything is fine, but last week he told me he's moving with his gf. He told me he was prepared for the consecuences. And this rang a bell for me, like if he was saying he was prepared for me ending our relationship at expense of he deciding to live with her... like he's "choosing" her.... I was sad he did not asked me before how I felt about this happening, He always says that he doesn't wan to hierarchy our relationships.
Sharing a common space is very important for me, and now Idk how to react because I don´t want to go to his new home because I feel I'm sharing the space he shares with his gf, she's a good person but we're not friends yet. So I feel like this door was closed.
I've been patient and I know is a long process to jump from monogamy to polyamory, however, I can't kiss him, I can't sleep with him, I can share common spaces with him... and now he's living with his gf and I see him once a week or once every 2 weeks and I feel prettybad, sad an anxious, I feel like I´m the lover, I don't feel contemplated.
I was wondering if there's a good way to communicate this to him, I don't want to fall into jelousy, but I want my own necessities to be filled. Now I'm not sure If I want to keep going with this process as I feel pretty heartbroken.
I'm a woman and more than a year ago I met this guy, I developed a crush on him and told him. He said he couldn't be with me because he has a girlfriend (still has, they've been together 4 years now), so we stay as friends.
However, our relationship developed and he confessed he has feelings for me, we talked a lot and he decided to say this to his partner and we began therapy with the only purpose to see if this can work. We have never kissed nor sleep together becase we want all of this to be sane and consensual from everyone.
Till here everything is fine, but last week he told me he's moving with his gf. He told me he was prepared for the consecuences. And this rang a bell for me, like if he was saying he was prepared for me ending our relationship at expense of he deciding to live with her... like he's "choosing" her.... I was sad he did not asked me before how I felt about this happening, He always says that he doesn't wan to hierarchy our relationships.
Sharing a common space is very important for me, and now Idk how to react because I don´t want to go to his new home because I feel I'm sharing the space he shares with his gf, she's a good person but we're not friends yet. So I feel like this door was closed.
I've been patient and I know is a long process to jump from monogamy to polyamory, however, I can't kiss him, I can't sleep with him, I can share common spaces with him... and now he's living with his gf and I see him once a week or once every 2 weeks and I feel prettybad, sad an anxious, I feel like I´m the lover, I don't feel contemplated.
I was wondering if there's a good way to communicate this to him, I don't want to fall into jelousy, but I want my own necessities to be filled. Now I'm not sure If I want to keep going with this process as I feel pretty heartbroken.