LovelyLady
New member
Hi,
I introduced myself to the boards a couple of days ago. I am mono and my partner is poly. I am his primary and he has recently ended an 8 year secondary relationship and is in the process of beginning a new one. Actually, tonight is their first sexual encounter and I am having a hard time navigating the NRE stage.
So before I left for work, he promised he would be home for dinner. I didn't ask him to be and actually told him I didn't think he would be, but he was adamant. We have a 5 year old daughter, so at 7:30 pm when I hadn't heard anything from him, I sent him a text saying she couldn't wait any longer and we were going to eat. I honestly don't care that he's not home for dinner, but I think it is rude and inconsiderate that he wouldn't contact me to say his plans changed. We sat around waiting for him. And now I'm left wondering if he'll even be home tonight.
Because of this, other feelings have arisen. I set up a beautiful ocean front room for them, however it has been raining all day. They've now spent 9.5 hours of alone time together and counting. My problem is that we never get alone time. We don't live near any family and don't have anyone we trust to watch our daughter. We recently got back from a short 3 day cruise and he had to sign up for the shipboard mobile package so he could continue to text her. I have always respected his time with his other partners and don't text him unless it is an emergency, so was disappointed we couldn't spend uninterrupted time together.
I've rambled on long enough and appreciate any advice anyone has to offer. I know the feelings of jealousy will pass and really just needed to vent here to hopefully avoid any outpouring of emotions when he returns home. We are not out to anyone so I have no one to talk to about my feelings. I also know he loves me deeply and has told his new partner that he will never leave me. I have nothing to worry about but my head hasn't convinced my heart yet.
I introduced myself to the boards a couple of days ago. I am mono and my partner is poly. I am his primary and he has recently ended an 8 year secondary relationship and is in the process of beginning a new one. Actually, tonight is their first sexual encounter and I am having a hard time navigating the NRE stage.
So before I left for work, he promised he would be home for dinner. I didn't ask him to be and actually told him I didn't think he would be, but he was adamant. We have a 5 year old daughter, so at 7:30 pm when I hadn't heard anything from him, I sent him a text saying she couldn't wait any longer and we were going to eat. I honestly don't care that he's not home for dinner, but I think it is rude and inconsiderate that he wouldn't contact me to say his plans changed. We sat around waiting for him. And now I'm left wondering if he'll even be home tonight.
Because of this, other feelings have arisen. I set up a beautiful ocean front room for them, however it has been raining all day. They've now spent 9.5 hours of alone time together and counting. My problem is that we never get alone time. We don't live near any family and don't have anyone we trust to watch our daughter. We recently got back from a short 3 day cruise and he had to sign up for the shipboard mobile package so he could continue to text her. I have always respected his time with his other partners and don't text him unless it is an emergency, so was disappointed we couldn't spend uninterrupted time together.
I've rambled on long enough and appreciate any advice anyone has to offer. I know the feelings of jealousy will pass and really just needed to vent here to hopefully avoid any outpouring of emotions when he returns home. We are not out to anyone so I have no one to talk to about my feelings. I also know he loves me deeply and has told his new partner that he will never leave me. I have nothing to worry about but my head hasn't convinced my heart yet.