I love them both... New and need help

Thank you. :) I've stolen the idea to let him read the Wikipedia first and then discuss it with him. That way I don't ramble on and beat around the bush. All I can do is have faith in our love, and hope for understanding, at least.
 
P.S. I gave the link of my thread to my friend. I think it really helped. He said it gave him a little more insight into what I am feeling. He thinks/thought he was not enough for me to love just him and that is so not the case! I love him just as he is and there is nothing that he could do, because, in my eyes, he is perfect.
 
I truly hope you figure this out. I don't think I am the best source of knowledge about this, because my own experience is so heavily dependent on one thing. I have never loved someone the way I love Redpepper. That is the deciding factor. If my ex-wife would have mentioned wanting another man, I would have left her immediately.

I honestly wouldn't recommend a mono/poly relationship to very many people, especially a long-distance relationship, so I would be of little aid to your situation, I'm afraid. Sorry. I have posted benefits and pitfalls on other threads, however.

I hope you all find happiness and love.
 
WOW. I totally feel your pain. Seriously! I feel like I'm reading my own feelings/thoughts. I loved the poem and copied it to my computer.
I hope you come back and tell us what happened. (I'm new. Maybe you already did in another thread.) But I wanted to tell you I was moved by all you said.
 
A lot has happened over the past week. I will update soon, promise! All I have time to say before rushing to work is I am a lucky lucky girl. :p
 
It sounds like good things happened with your talks. I'm so happy for you!

I talked to my husband last night. We'll talk again some more tonight. I hope it goes okay too!
 
dannyboi said:
Yeah it defeats the point if a guy is looking for other girls, swinging and poly are 2 different things
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Many people do some sort of swinging or other non-committal ENM at the same time as poly. For some, sex without romance does not work. For others, the pleasure of a one-time encounter provides the variety they seek.

Oh whoops, this is a super-old thread.
 
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I don't mind that you revived this thread. I agree with you that everyone is unique, so what works for one is different from what works for another.
 
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