Hi everyone,
I’m brand new to this forum. A bit about me, I’m a 27 year old woman who has been in a monogamous relationship for 5 years with my partner (30yr old male). We own a house together and a beautiful Great Dane!
I don’t want this to come across as conceited, which it might , but I’ve always considered our relationship to be better than most. At least those of my close friends etc. We have super open lines of communication, he is such a beautiful version of masculinity, he’s sweet and vulnerable and has no possessive traits. I think this is what attracted me to him in the first place, I’ve always found relationships with ideas of ownership a bit ick. We support each other fully, he is genuinely just such a good person and I adore him. For the first time in my life I’m excited about growing old because I will do it with him. I imagine us swanning around in Europe in our 60s.
ANYWAY, we do have one issue and that is our libidos are not matched. Far from it! He is much less interested in sex than I am and prefers cuddling, kissing and other forms of physical intimacy. Whilst this wasn’t a problem for the first few years, now we live together and are super familiar and our sex life has fallen off a cliff haha. It’s starting to affect me negatively as my sexuality is an important part of my identity and honestly I just really enjoy and miss sex. We have tried all the tricks to reignite it, but no luck. We’ve had many long conversations about it and last night we both came to the conclusion that an open relationship (casual sex only) might work for us.
I have heard soooo many times that an open relationship can’t be used to fix problems in a relationship and if the relationship isn’t 100% amazing then an open relationship will cause it to crumble.
So my questions is, from your experience do you think me being able to have sex partners away from my relationship will destroy it? Because it would be to fix the problem of my sexual needs not being met.
Any advice please! Questions we should be answering with each other before we commit to this? problems that might arise? Any and all info and advice is welcome. Thank you!
I’m brand new to this forum. A bit about me, I’m a 27 year old woman who has been in a monogamous relationship for 5 years with my partner (30yr old male). We own a house together and a beautiful Great Dane!
I don’t want this to come across as conceited, which it might , but I’ve always considered our relationship to be better than most. At least those of my close friends etc. We have super open lines of communication, he is such a beautiful version of masculinity, he’s sweet and vulnerable and has no possessive traits. I think this is what attracted me to him in the first place, I’ve always found relationships with ideas of ownership a bit ick. We support each other fully, he is genuinely just such a good person and I adore him. For the first time in my life I’m excited about growing old because I will do it with him. I imagine us swanning around in Europe in our 60s.
ANYWAY, we do have one issue and that is our libidos are not matched. Far from it! He is much less interested in sex than I am and prefers cuddling, kissing and other forms of physical intimacy. Whilst this wasn’t a problem for the first few years, now we live together and are super familiar and our sex life has fallen off a cliff haha. It’s starting to affect me negatively as my sexuality is an important part of my identity and honestly I just really enjoy and miss sex. We have tried all the tricks to reignite it, but no luck. We’ve had many long conversations about it and last night we both came to the conclusion that an open relationship (casual sex only) might work for us.
I have heard soooo many times that an open relationship can’t be used to fix problems in a relationship and if the relationship isn’t 100% amazing then an open relationship will cause it to crumble.
So my questions is, from your experience do you think me being able to have sex partners away from my relationship will destroy it? Because it would be to fix the problem of my sexual needs not being met.
Any advice please! Questions we should be answering with each other before we commit to this? problems that might arise? Any and all info and advice is welcome. Thank you!