Interested in a poly marriage
- Thread starter Cjwmi
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Hi and welcome
This is a solid start for a reading list.
This is a solid start for a reading list.
Bobbi
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Poly basics most people don't know:
1. Each person has their own relationships.
2. Triads (where three people have relationships with each other) are very rare in polyamory and are very hard to make work long term.
3. If one person in a couple has more than one romantic relationship, BOTH are practicing polyamory, whether the other dates others or not.
4. Polyamory is LESS about being comfortable having more than one romantic partner, and is MORE about being comfortable with your partner having other partners.
Keep these things in mind when discussing with your wife, as you'll BOTH have to do a lot of work to make poly work. And if she chooses not to date, but says you can, then she will be doing lots of work for only your benefit, and you'll be doing a lot less work and won't really relate to what she's going through.
Mono/poly is doable, but really hard and is only a positive experience in select cases.
1. Each person has their own relationships.
2. Triads (where three people have relationships with each other) are very rare in polyamory and are very hard to make work long term.
3. If one person in a couple has more than one romantic relationship, BOTH are practicing polyamory, whether the other dates others or not.
4. Polyamory is LESS about being comfortable having more than one romantic partner, and is MORE about being comfortable with your partner having other partners.
Keep these things in mind when discussing with your wife, as you'll BOTH have to do a lot of work to make poly work. And if she chooses not to date, but says you can, then she will be doing lots of work for only your benefit, and you'll be doing a lot less work and won't really relate to what she's going through.
Mono/poly is doable, but really hard and is only a positive experience in select cases.
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Welcome aboard!
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
You might find the following FAQ pages helpful:
- https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamory.html#polyamory-faq
- https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org/home/polyamory/faq/
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
Notes:
There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!
Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.
Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.
If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.
Welcome aboard!