classycaveman
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This sounds plausible. I was thinking the same thing a few hours after I finished my previous post.
Is male sex drive a myth?
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This sounds plausible. I was thinking the same thing a few hours after I finished my previous post.
Snowdancer
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Very interesting!
There are a few ideas that come to mind:
1. When I was 18 and 20 (hell, even 30) and full of testosterone, I only knew of one woman who couldn't get enough (thank God for her!). I found it tough to even find women that would. I expect many younger men don't have the money to come and see you to complain about this.
2. Women in their 40s and sometimes into their 50s are as insatiable as I was when I was in my 20s. Unfortunately, their husbands aren't in their 20s anymore. It's an ironic turn of play.
3. Many men may feel uncomfortable about discussing personal issues like that, whereas there are frequently no secrets between women.
4. Many men have had their sex drive short-circuited with prescription drugs. They'd like the equipment to work, but the doc wasn't watching out for them.
5. And of course, the natural thought that comes to mind is: "Send them to me!" LOL!
There are a few ideas that come to mind:
1. When I was 18 and 20 (hell, even 30) and full of testosterone, I only knew of one woman who couldn't get enough (thank God for her!). I found it tough to even find women that would. I expect many younger men don't have the money to come and see you to complain about this.
2. Women in their 40s and sometimes into their 50s are as insatiable as I was when I was in my 20s. Unfortunately, their husbands aren't in their 20s anymore. It's an ironic turn of play.
3. Many men may feel uncomfortable about discussing personal issues like that, whereas there are frequently no secrets between women.
4. Many men have had their sex drive short-circuited with prescription drugs. They'd like the equipment to work, but the doc wasn't watching out for them.
5. And of course, the natural thought that comes to mind is: "Send them to me!" LOL!
Sex drives are an interesting thing. Hormones and physiological stuff are involved, and mental and emotional stress can definitely have an impact. Back in the day, I was selling sex toys at parties for women, and I always got at least one woman who couldn't get her husband to sleep with her. I used to cruise sexual health boards and see what people were posting, and there were a crapload (technical term) of women posting that their men wouldn't have sex with them, and they didn't understand it.
What people sometimes fail to realize is that you can have physical issues, emotional issues, or relationship issues that effect your sex drive. You can be on medications that affect your sex drive (antidepressants, anyone?) If you have one of those issues, you have to figure out what it is, but many people just avoid this. They don't want to think about it, or really take a look at what's going on enough to fix the problem.
We are a nation of distraction. If we are unhappy, we'll distract ourselves with video games, the internet, TV, food, drugs, alcohol, etc. All of this affects our sexual drives and feelings and relationships.
And then there's just the issue of people having different sex drives. I think this is where polyamory can be a great thing. It leaves the opportunity for someone with a higher sex drive to get what they need, without leaving their partner, not that polyamory is all about sex.
What people sometimes fail to realize is that you can have physical issues, emotional issues, or relationship issues that effect your sex drive. You can be on medications that affect your sex drive (antidepressants, anyone?) If you have one of those issues, you have to figure out what it is, but many people just avoid this. They don't want to think about it, or really take a look at what's going on enough to fix the problem.
We are a nation of distraction. If we are unhappy, we'll distract ourselves with video games, the internet, TV, food, drugs, alcohol, etc. All of this affects our sexual drives and feelings and relationships.
And then there's just the issue of people having different sex drives. I think this is where polyamory can be a great thing. It leaves the opportunity for someone with a higher sex drive to get what they need, without leaving their partner, not that polyamory is all about sex.
Snowdancer
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I was in that ballpark too when I was that age. Now, at 55, once a day is about my max. Even that pace gets tiring over the course of a few days, but I'm still willing, and do my best to not leave my girlfriend hanging. I remember all those times in my 20s when I couldn't get laid, so I try to have a little compassion for women going through their sexual peak. It's no fun when your body is insisting and your partner just doesn't care.
I think it's interesting that we all start with certain trends, and then it changes and ebbs and flows depending upon... whatever.
At one point, I could have probably been happy with 2x a week. Now, if I could do it every day, I'd be happy. More than once per day would be great.
Hubs is a little younger than me. He's 35. I'm almost 44. And luckily he can keep up, mostly.
At times I can definitely outdo him, which is fine. It comes and goes. Since he's 3000 miles away right now, I get a lot of buildup, so when we're together it's on fire. We'll see what happens when he's been home for a while. LOL.
At one point, I could have probably been happy with 2x a week. Now, if I could do it every day, I'd be happy. More than once per day would be great.
Hubs is a little younger than me. He's 35. I'm almost 44. And luckily he can keep up, mostly.
At times I can definitely outdo him, which is fine. It comes and goes. Since he's 3000 miles away right now, I get a lot of buildup, so when we're together it's on fire. We'll see what happens when he's been home for a while. LOL.
Breathesgirl
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It's no fun when your body is saying "YES, I WANT IT NOW!" and your partner is saying let's see what Mr. Happy says about things. *sigh*
Snowdancer, are you in any way close to me? lol
It's that demon testosterone. And I imagine most of that sex was masturbation, not actually getting laid. Most of the young men I have talked to, or been intimate with, masturbate at least twice a day.
Having heard a lot of transpeople talk, the MtoF transpeople report a lowering of sex drive after taking androgen blockers and estrogen. One MtoF person said she still wants sex a lot, but at least now she can get other things done as well. Another MtoF said she can now take or leave sex, and she'd rather leave it.
FtoMs report a much increased sex drive after starting T(estosterone).
Perhaps that depends on where you are in your ovulation cycle.
Snowdancer
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Washington, DC. Thanks for asking.
transitapparent
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It was actually all sex. no masturbation. But it was also over a 24-hour period. Nooner, round 2, lunch, nap, round 3, etc. Started again in the morning. It was a LDR and we hadn't seen each other in a few months.
transitapparent
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I was on vacation and visiting her. There wasn't much else going on that day.
I would hope no one would count masturbation as sex for performance purposes. I guess it comes back to whether masturbation is sex. For me, it isn't..
9 in 24 hours is pretty good though. haha
Demon? Pshaw! I embrace the 666 then. haha
I second that. you go girl.
What on earth do you mean by that?
opalescent
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Check on the 40 & insatiable part! But nothing to do with sterility for me. I think my hormones just finally settled down.
But nothing to do with sterility for me. I think my hormones just finally settled down.