Is masturbation sex?

Is masturbation sex?

  • I'm a woman and I vote yes

    Votes: 28 24.1%

  • I'm a woman and I vote no

    Votes: 28 24.1%

  • I'm a man and I voted yes

    Votes: 16 13.8%

  • I'm a man and I vote no

    Votes: 25 21.6%

  • I'm gender-variant and I vote yes

    Votes: 1 0.9%

  • I'm gender-variant and I vote no

    Votes: 1 0.9%

  • Magical brownies

    Votes: 17 14.7%
  • Total voters
    116
  • Poll closed .
I've done less, and considered it "cheating". I had a mental relationship with a woman. We never had sex, but the relationship was there. My wife found out, and that was the end of the mental relationship. I was WRONG in doing that. I learned from it, and never put myself in that position again. In fact, I put up walls to keep things like that from happening ever again. Unfortunatly, I let them down, and I almost got sucked into the vortex again. So now I have the walls back in place with re-enforcements. It makes it difficult at times, but I have one wife.....not many wives. I am deathly loyal to HER....does it mean I can't fall in love with another woman? Possibly, but only because of the walls I have put in place in an attempt to keep my marriage. When I feel myself being pulled that direction, I take a break for a while form fraternizing with the other woman. (which invariably leaves HER wondering what she did wrong. :( ) But it keeps my wife happy with me, and my marriage intact. ;)

But the question was about SEX....Not mental relationships. And I'm pretty sure the OP meant the physical actions. To me, masturbation is NOT sex.
 
I voted no. Masturbation is more like practice for sex. I find that it gives me the opportunity to learn what works for me physically with no pressure from anyone else about not being able to reach orgasm a certain way. Sometimes it's also just something to do to help relax you when you're trying to sleep. For me sex involves someone else with you and an exchange of energies. By yourself it's just something that feels good.
 
Derbylicious said:
I voted no. Masturbation is more like practice for sex. I find that it gives me the opportunity to learn what works for me physically with no pressure from anyone else about not being able to reach orgasm a certain way. Sometimes it's also just something to do to help relax you when you're trying to sleep. For me sex involves someone else with you and an exchange of energies. By yourself it's just something that feels good.
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OK, so by a small margin, survey says, masturbation is not sex, because sex has to involve 2 individuals. Obviously, I disagree. I'm of the camp that thinks, if it involves the rubbing of, and engorgement of the genitals, and the release of orgasm, it's sex, whether by yourself or not. Heck, even if one doesn't get fully engorged/hard, and there isn't an orgasm (aka edging), it's still sex/ual activity.

I'm tempted to be snarky and say, if you're masturbating and it doesn't feel like sex to you, you must be doing it wrong.

But I won't say that, because I am a nice person. *angel* :p
 
Wow mags, you are all over this masturbation thread :p...

I figure I need more practice, maybe you guys who consider it sex are onto something...maybe I need to up the amount I currently do it. :p
 
Or some kind of instruction on how to do it "right". :p 20 odd years and I'm still doing it wrong!
 
but the problem with a lesson is that involves another person, and right there for me, it becomes sex...

It would have to be a virtual lesson :p...come to think of it, is there a manual for masturbation. For guys its pretty easy stuff...its not rocket science to figure out what to do when you are (insert random boy age when they become aware of hardon) and you suddenly have something sticking out the front of your body screaming for attention.

hmm maybe thats TMI :p
 
Ariakas said:
Wow mags, you are all over this masturbation thread :p...

I figure I need more practice, maybe you guys who consider it sex are onto something...maybe I need to up the amount I currently do it. :p
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haha. ;) You know it's quality, not quantity, I am speaking of, silly.

Ariakas said:
but the problem with a lesson is that involves another person, and right there for me, it becomes sex...

It would have to be a virtual lesson :p...come to think of it, is there a manual for masturbation. For guys its pretty easy stuff...its not rocket science to figure out what to do when you are (insert random boy age when they become aware of hardon) and you suddenly have something sticking out the front of your body screaming for attention.

hmm maybe thats TMI :p
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No, as the OP I say that's not TMI.

My Ct lover went to a masturbation clinic in NYC. I'll have to find the "teacher's" website and share it. It was loosely based on Tantric principles. It was a workshop for men, but partners were invited to observe. There were about 20 men in his workshop. Gay and straight. They all got naked and the instructor ( a woman) led them on an exploration of loving/stroking their penises. (No orgasms allowed, probably for safety/health reasons.) There was also sharing of feelings about their bodies/penises. And dancing.
 
Ok, I tried it last night....THREE TIMES! It was most definatly NOT sex. :p LOL But then again, myt wife sells this sleeve thing which feels just LIKE sex........and OMG....If I just close my eyes, I can imagine Farrah Fawcet and me......mnmmmmmm
 
TL4everu2 said:
Ok, I tried it last night....THREE TIMES! It was most definatly NOT sex. :p LOL But then again, myt wife sells this sleeve thing which feels just LIKE sex........and OMG....If I just close my eyes, I can imagine Farrah Fawcet and me......mnmmmmmm
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The Flesh Light?
 
TruckerPete said:
The Flesh Light?
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LOL Nooooo.....This is one of the products that she sells. I've only ever seen the fleshlight in online ads. I've never seen one in person....yet. The fleshlight had one hole at one end.....and a flashlight thing at the other. The one we have has an opening at each end and is made out of a jelly type material. http://www.slumberparties.com/checkout/productdetail.aspx?ID=294 I think this is it. ;)
 
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So, if the toy feels enough like a vagina, and your fantasy is a good one, masturbating feels like "sex" to you, even tho it's still a solitary act? Hm! :cool:
 
TL4everu2 said:
LOL Nooooo.....This is one of the products that she sells. I've only ever seen the fleshlight in online ads. I've never seen one in person....yet. The fleshlight had one hole at one end.....and a flashlight thing at the other. The one we have has an opening at each end and is made out of a jelly type material. http://www.slumberparties.com/checkout/productdetail.aspx?ID=294 I think this is it. ;)
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Hrm. That is very interesting ... I can see the benefit of it being a sleeve. I bought something similar for Indigo once, but it was not a sleeve. It made the most distracting sucking noise. It suffices to say that it only got used once.

Well, he could still be using it, but it'd have to be when I wasn't home because I'd certainly hear it!!! :D

As for the flesh light ... I work on a university campus and we have a great sex shop. They get all sorts of cool things in (and sell them at cost!), so I have seen/felt one. I've heard from friends that it's decent, but it feels so realistic that it's creepy. This is because it's significantly cooler than a human body!!
 
Ariakas:

Wow mags, you are all over this masturbation thread ...

I figure I need more practice, maybe you guys who consider it sex are onto something...maybe I need to up the amount I currently do it.
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Derby:

Or some kind of instruction on how to do it "right". 20 odd years and I'm still doing it wrong!
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Over the course of this thread, it has become clear to me that some of you are indeed not masturbating correctly, and thus think it isn't sex.

It has also become clear that I myself have not been having sex with a partner correctly, and thus do not adequately differentiate between masturbation and sex.

In an attempt to solve this conundrum, I am personally willing to give advanced masturbation lessons in exchange for advanced two-partner sex lessons. All in the name of science of course!


Anotherbo ;)
 
anotherbo said:
Ariakas:



Derby:




Over the course of this thread, it has become clear to me that some of you are indeed not masturbating correctly, and thus think it isn't sex.

It has also become clear that I myself have not been having sex with a partner correctly, and thus do not adequately differentiate between masturbation and sex.

In an attempt to solve this conundrum, I am personally willing to give advanced masturbation lessons in exchange for advanced two-partner sex lessons. All in the name of science of course!


Anotherbo ;)
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Awesome! :D
 
TruckerPete said:
Hrm. That is very interesting ... I can see the benefit of it being a sleeve. I bought something similar for Indigo once, but it was not a sleeve. It made the most distracting sucking noise. It suffices to say that it only got used once.

Well, he could still be using it, but it'd have to be when I wasn't home because I'd certainly hear it!!! :D

As for the flesh light ... I work on a university campus and we have a great sex shop. They get all sorts of cool things in (and sell them at cost!), so I have seen/felt one. I've heard from friends that it's decent, but it feels so realistic that it's creepy. This is because it's significantly cooler than a human body!!
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The one I have does not make any "noise" except for me moaning and well......you know. ;) LOL
 
Masturbation is not sex

I say no because sex involves two or more. Masturbation is just masturbation. while it is sexual, you're still doing it alone.

I also don't officially count oral sex as sex. When asked how many people I've had sex with I do not count the people in which oral sex was as far as it ever went.

I guess to me, sex means intercourse.
 
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