River
Active member
For what it is worth, I realized through this discussion that I was in large part reacting to a thought: That some people choose the terms "primary, secondary, tertiary" in order to avoid telling their partner that they feel equally in love with, and committed to, another person -- who may not happen to live with the original couple (or grouping). This feels like a dishonest evasion of the honesty which is so crucial to polyamory.
In saying this, I don't have anyone here in mind. It's just a sort of gut reaction in myself at this time.
I've let my long term partner, with whom I live (and whom I love profoundly) know that I'm open to having other loves on equal footing with him. He's happy about this, and for me. We choose to be honest with one another even when doing so is risky territory.
In saying this, I don't have anyone here in mind. It's just a sort of gut reaction in myself at this time.
I've let my long term partner, with whom I live (and whom I love profoundly) know that I'm open to having other loves on equal footing with him. He's happy about this, and for me. We choose to be honest with one another even when doing so is risky territory.