joined because of struggling mono thread lol

[Clintonsbn]

Hello all! Been a crazy past 3 months learning about this kind of lifestyle and aspect of relationships. Im 34 straight monogamous man dating a poly woman whom until I met never knew what poly even was. Looking to join this forum as a way of just possibly connecting more with others who may have been through some of the struggles I've dealt with and are dealing with. Look forward to good conversation (although limited as i understand not many ppl on this forum but didn't find anywhere else that was remotely close to a community like this) and find both questions and answers occasionally on here!

-Clinton

 

[Magdlyn]

Welcome Clinton,

There is an active thread right now that you might find helpful.

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=142712

But feel free to tell us more about your specific struggles.

 

[Al99]

Hi Clinton - and welcome to the Forum! Please feel free to join in the conversation with any thoughts and questions that you may have.

You might find the thread that Mags suggested as a useful place to start since it is currently active - it is absolutely packed full of great suggestions and discussion for the mono guy. I relate to it all as I was also a happily mono guy until my wife asked me open our marriage a few years back - full story in the sig link below.

Here's a link to a list of some of the best poly websites - you might find them helpful if you want to learn a bit more about polyamory.

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=108191

The book most often suggested for those just starting out in polyamory is:

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
by Tristan Taormino, available in digital or hard copy from the usual book sellers.

Again, welcome - we will look forward to hearing more of your story.

Al

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Clinton,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You should definitely be able to find many sympathetic ears here, as well as much good info on what poly is and how it works, and the ins and outs of mono/poly. Here are some links to help you get started:

• Poly FAQ
• Glossary and Definitions thread
• How to Love a Polyamorist
• As someone who is monogamous, how can I be okay with the fact that my girlfriend is polyamorous, and how can I get over my feelings of inadequacy?
• Mono/Non-Mono - Struggling to Accept
• Being monogamous in a poly relationship
• Unexpectedly Poly
• Blog thread: A Mono's Journey Into Poly-Land (or, "Aw hell, there's no road map?!")
• Slightly more polished blog with a mono/poly focus: From Baltic to Boardwalk
• Master Thread - links to other threads worth reading

Also check out the book/links mentioned by Magdlyn and Al99. Let us know if you have any questions. Glad you could join us. Good luck!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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