pittarotaro
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My nesting partner and I have opened our relationship to poly, hoping to create Vs or Ws, and maybe a quad if things work out for the best. I went on a first date with a lad, D, and felt instant chemistry.
I felt so lovesick afterwards. I knew that he had a primary in the military that would "come first" should they come home. Somehow I felt like I was David vs. Goliath. He told me he's looking for something light, but long-term, and he specifically looked out for other partners with primaries.
I have a "primary" too but I wouldn't drop everything for him if plans change. I adore my nesting partner, and he's the father of our beautiful child, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that we're both open to more (adding) if things go well with our metamours.
D is hesitant to say he's up for adding or being added. He imagines himself with his spouse later on in life, whenever or wherever that is. I think maybe he hasn't reached that threshold? Or he's putting these restrictions on to "protect" his primary relationship?
I felt a little pushy the last conversation we had because I like him so much! I'd love to spend more time with him and hang out with him more, but I guess that's just an effect of NRE? He said he enjoyed dating too, and would like to keep going, but I think I might've blurted out too much about what kind of future I'd like to see with possible partners.
Right now we've agreed to keep on seeing each other and see where it goes. Maybe it was the kiss that got me hooked and I'm a little embarrassed I talked to him about this all...It's gotten me worried and I hope more experienced polys would be able to dissect this and help!
I felt so lovesick afterwards. I knew that he had a primary in the military that would "come first" should they come home. Somehow I felt like I was David vs. Goliath. He told me he's looking for something light, but long-term, and he specifically looked out for other partners with primaries.
I have a "primary" too but I wouldn't drop everything for him if plans change. I adore my nesting partner, and he's the father of our beautiful child, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that we're both open to more (adding) if things go well with our metamours.
D is hesitant to say he's up for adding or being added. He imagines himself with his spouse later on in life, whenever or wherever that is. I think maybe he hasn't reached that threshold? Or he's putting these restrictions on to "protect" his primary relationship?
I felt a little pushy the last conversation we had because I like him so much! I'd love to spend more time with him and hang out with him more, but I guess that's just an effect of NRE? He said he enjoyed dating too, and would like to keep going, but I think I might've blurted out too much about what kind of future I'd like to see with possible partners.
Right now we've agreed to keep on seeing each other and see where it goes. Maybe it was the kiss that got me hooked and I'm a little embarrassed I talked to him about this all...It's gotten me worried and I hope more experienced polys would be able to dissect this and help!