Hey, new to this thread and not 100% sure it's for me but I'll see how I go
My weight has fluctuated over the years - not through dieting, but lifestyle variations. When I've been less active, I put on more fat. I also love eating - a lot! It's only been recently I properly understood the relevance of caloric intake... My life had become much more sedentary of late (e.g. I started driving more often to manage work and childcare pick-ups, whereas previously I would walk / bike / take public transport) and I hadn't reduced my intake in response.
I'm now just over five months into my third pregnancy in 4 years and each pregnancy I have been a heavier starting weight. My first weigh-in this pregnancy I was 90kg (198.4 lb) which I feel is the heaviest I've ever been, and it was 14 kg (30 lb) more than my first weigh-in for the second pregnancy less than two years ago. I was alarmed!
I think my very happy place is way down at 65 kg (143 lb), which is still offically overweight for my 158 cm (5 ' 3) height & large frame, but I'm ok with that. I can also handle a bit more weight but definitely not the amount I've been carting around recently.
That said, I don't have strong weight loss goals per se. I'm fairly fit (a lot of this weight is muscle) and as long as I can maintain my fitness at the level of an active lifestyle I'll be happy. So I have goals related to specific activities, for example, I'd like to be able to swim 400m freestyle in under 9 mins. I can't be bothered converting that to imperial. Would you use yards or feet anyway? I'm thinking yards...
Anyway, after my most recent pregnancy weigh-in, I thought I needed some focused attention on reducing excess fat and improving my fitness. I'm not counting calories every meal, but I'm becoming more aware of what I eat with
occasional calorie calculation which has made me more conscious of calorie density and portion sizes.
I've also joined the gym for the second time in my life. I find it very addictive and it makes me super horny! Last time (in my late teens) I had to quit because I was so obsessed. This time I'm trying to be more relaxed about it. I had an initial PT session which set down a moderate timetable of 2-3 x 45 min cardio sessions and 2 x mixed sessions (30 mins strength, 15 mins cardio) per week which seems sane given I'm nearly two-thirds into this pregnancy. I'd like to keep it up for as long as I can. I signed up for 12 months locked in, so here's hoping! This week is week two and it's been going well so far.
I've also added a swim per week (before work on Wednesdays) and gentle yoga at home once or twice a week to get some flexibility. I find too much gym stuff can make me tighten up.
If I can keep up my fitness activities and be better diet-wise I'll be satisfied. I'm not going to weigh myself daily (we don't have scales at home, anyway) but I'll judge by how I feel and how I fit my clothes. I will get weighed regularly with pre-natal check ups these days (next appointment tomorrow) and I hope I won't blow out much further. That said, I'm not going to put pressure on myself til after baby's out and I've had time to recover.
I don't think I'll ever focus on the scales, though, cos I figure as long as I'm fit enough to do the things I want to do, that's ok by me. And as long as I've got enough clothes I like that fit me, that's ok. It'll always be more about the activities for me, but I'd like to reduce fat until I feel I'm at a good maintenance level. Which probably won't be a weight goal but a feeling? It sounds vague but it makes sense to me.
I'll need to be disciplined about food and exercise to achieve my goals, so I reckon I'm aligned with the vibe of this thread if not the details. I think joining here would help me stay motivated, and it's been interesting to read the different things that have worked / not worked for other people.
Re diet, I don't have a huge sweet tooth and don't drink cordials or much alcohol. It's mostly me eating too much of food when it's tasty, eating fast food / take out instead of home cooking or eating extra crap cos I don't want to throw out food when the kids don't finish their food. And their food tends to have more processed food / cheese etc than what I would serve myself normally. So for example I'm making peace with throwing out that half a hot dog instead of being the garbage bin myself.