My first attempt at poly

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Vlad

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Hi every one!
It is my first time trying polyamory and open relationships.
I have a LDR lasting for over one year and we are going to meet for the first time in less than one month. Just a few days ago my girlfriend said she got a crush in someone but assured me she’s still loving me the same.
I proposed her an open relationship and she accepted.
The thing is I am her first boyfriend ever and she’s not experienced in regular relationships more than in open relationships. I am older than her and experienced, so probably l am the one who should guide her. But since I was never in an open relationship I don’t know how to deal with it.
I would need some tips and advice. I have to mention that even if normally I should be glad I have more freedom to explore and dreamt to have an open relationship before, I feel pretty uncomfortable. I am a bit jealous that I am not the only one in her heart now. Ki
 
I would recommend getting the book Opening Up. It covers all the basics of how to do polyamory successfully, what can go wrong, how to avoid mistakes or repair them, etc.

Did your online gf find a local guy to crush on? It might be more fulfilling for her to have a person she can meet in real life regularly. I know I prefer local relationships greatly over long distance ones.
 
Thank you for your suggestion and book recommendation! Yes, she found someone local but they just talked a few times, nothing more yet
 
Greetings Vlad,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I second the recommendation for you to read Opening Up, the author is Tristan Taormino, it is a really good book that covers most of the stuff you need to know about open and poly.

As for jealousy, here are some links that might help:
Check those out.
Sincere regards,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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You're welcome.
 
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