Gambit19811
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Me and my wife are going through a situation right now. We have been married 12 years. We have done 3somes, sex clubs, and she has seen her ex for a one time thing, which I was okay with.
Now fast forward to 4 months ago, she met a guy and wanted to pursue him for just sex. The only issue was, she wanted this as a weekly thing. This was unsettling from the start and we argued, fought, etc. I felt I was cornered into saying yes to this, in fear of losing her and what we had before this, which was good.
I can understand where she is coming from, in the fact that her father passed away, she is feeling older and only has so much time before menopause. And she just wants to be free. I am more hurt that I was not respected to make some ground rules so she can meet these desires in a way that we are both comfortable.
Currently, we have been in fight mode and I admit I have said some fucked-up stuff because I couldn't handle my emotional state.
During this time she is seeing him weekly. Now all the blame is on me because of how I reacted. She hates me right now and now wants to have dinner and to sleep over there. I have told her those are boundaries that I cant handle and I would consider separation if that were to happen.
At the core, my wife is a really good loving person. I just don't know what has happened in the last 4 months, that her desires supersede what I feel.
Sorry for the grammatical errors and spelling.
Thanks,
G
Now fast forward to 4 months ago, she met a guy and wanted to pursue him for just sex. The only issue was, she wanted this as a weekly thing. This was unsettling from the start and we argued, fought, etc. I felt I was cornered into saying yes to this, in fear of losing her and what we had before this, which was good.
I can understand where she is coming from, in the fact that her father passed away, she is feeling older and only has so much time before menopause. And she just wants to be free. I am more hurt that I was not respected to make some ground rules so she can meet these desires in a way that we are both comfortable.
Currently, we have been in fight mode and I admit I have said some fucked-up stuff because I couldn't handle my emotional state.
During this time she is seeing him weekly. Now all the blame is on me because of how I reacted. She hates me right now and now wants to have dinner and to sleep over there. I have told her those are boundaries that I cant handle and I would consider separation if that were to happen.
At the core, my wife is a really good loving person. I just don't know what has happened in the last 4 months, that her desires supersede what I feel.
Sorry for the grammatical errors and spelling.
Thanks,
G
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