New and looking for info

[KeepRolling]

Hi all. I'm 35m, married to my wife 32f. Over the years I have mentioned and joked about the poly lifestyle with my wife. She recently decided it might be for her.
I know I shouldn't have been surprised but I was. I let her know I would walk the path of looking into the lifestyle with her and so here I am gathering information. I've no real idea what is going to happen or where this will lead. Thank you

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings KeepRolling,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you are just getting started on your journey into poly. Everyone is different, so you will have your own unique challenges as you proceed. Keep reading and posting here, let us know of your questions as they arise, there is so much to learn about poly, so keep researching.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[Evie]

Hi and welcome!

Are you looking into polyamory specifically, or a more general ethical non-monogamy? Are you open to having separate other partners? Or are you thinking about trying to find someone to be a partner to both of you? What have you watched or read or listened to that's given you the interest in poly or ENM? I'm asking since it's a little difficult to suggest information unless you perhaps have a starting point in mind.

When my husband and I started opening up again after some time in monogamy, it was originally to people who we already had prior connections with (separately) and then new people we were newly meeting (still separately) and now I'm in committed relationships with him and my partner of six years. We are out to most of my friends and family, but less so on his side. We're aiming for kitchen table poly later this year when everyone is living in the same city.

There is a lot of places your journey could travel. There are so many different ways we all live this "lifestyle" that there isn't just one. Are you open to progressive change? Because in my experience, there is a lot that can change over time