upinthehills
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I'm a man in my first poly relationship with a husband and wife that I've known since we were young. We are now in our 40s.
They had been experimenting with the lifestyle for a few years with little success, until they brought it up with me. Everything is going great. It's made easier by the fact that we've all known each other for so long. The communication is built in, boundaries are clearly set, everyone is getting exactly what they want out of it.
The three of us have always had high libidos, and while MFM threesomes have been a regular fantasy of mine since I discovered they were a thing, I have some difficulty when the three of us are playing. The few times we have made it work were mind blowing. She gets twice the attention, he and I are very eager to please, and the sense of teamwork adds a whole new dimension to it all that I really enjoy.
But when it doesn't work, it's because of me. I start thinking about the times when it worked so well, and I want that experience again. I'm probably psyching myself out.
It feels like a privilege that I get to share this experience with them, and because of that I think I end up putting too much pressure on myself. I'm just not sure how to stop. Because it's definitely something we all want. I'm hoping for some advice on how I might be able to get out of my own head.
They had been experimenting with the lifestyle for a few years with little success, until they brought it up with me. Everything is going great. It's made easier by the fact that we've all known each other for so long. The communication is built in, boundaries are clearly set, everyone is getting exactly what they want out of it.
The three of us have always had high libidos, and while MFM threesomes have been a regular fantasy of mine since I discovered they were a thing, I have some difficulty when the three of us are playing. The few times we have made it work were mind blowing. She gets twice the attention, he and I are very eager to please, and the sense of teamwork adds a whole new dimension to it all that I really enjoy.
But when it doesn't work, it's because of me. I start thinking about the times when it worked so well, and I want that experience again. I'm probably psyching myself out.
It feels like a privilege that I get to share this experience with them, and because of that I think I end up putting too much pressure on myself. I'm just not sure how to stop. Because it's definitely something we all want. I'm hoping for some advice on how I might be able to get out of my own head.