Good evening all, I am a 55yo married male. I recently developed emotional attachment to a person I have worked with for 16 years. This relationship has not included sex but I think about her constantly and have had a lot of contact in person and via messenger. My wife and I have gotten increasingly distant over our 31 years of marriage. My wife knows about this and it is causing a lot of additional strain in our marriage. We are in couples counseling. To her credit, my wife has not mandated I terminate all contact. I fact, the only restriction is that I not be with the other person without a 3rd party present. I refuse to not see this other person. My wife has met and likes my friend but still gets distressed when I talk to her frequently. Any ideas what to do next? I don’t want a divorce and am extremely fearful of what would happen if we separate, but also fear staying in a marriage where we are more like roommates than husband and wife.