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HBs_willow

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Hello!


I am the submissive female of a male-led couple who has just joined this site. He is my head, my leader and I willingly submit to his desires and focus. He makes decisions and I follow his lead. We desire a polygynist relationship and have joined this site firstly in the hopes of finding a suitable sister-wife. We also hope to gain insight into ways, methods and mindsets helpful in forming a stable polygynist relationship.

Please note that we are not "swingers"; not in an open or "poly" relationship. Our goal is to form a family. I hope to find a sister to bond with as his second wife.
 

Evie

Moderator
Welcome to this nook of the web, willow.

You might like to be a little more forthcoming with your location so you garner interest from people local to you.

Here, we'd also encourage your partner to make his own profile so each of you have your own voice. It sounds like he's actually the classically poly one and you're very happy to be the "leg of a V" or eventually an arm of a star with multiple sister-wives.

You've used the terms "polygynist" and "sister-wife" - does this imply that religion is important to you? If so, you may want to be a little more explicit about that. Or do you envision the "50s household" scenario?

Being specific can be a good way to attract those you're trying to find.

All the best
Evie
 
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HBs_willow

New member
Thank you for your response. I am planning on placing a more specific posting in the dating forum. Our desire is not religious-based but instead we wanted to convey we are seeking a full-fledged committed relationship/marriage. My partner is very particular about vocabulary. Simply saying "poly" sounds too casual. I will pass along your suggestions to my partner.
 

Magdlyn

Well-known member
I think you seek a "poly" relationship. Poly means more than one. Your partner desires more than one female lover-wife, and you desire a sister-wife, so you're both seeking polyamory. I imagine your partner is seeking love, not just sex or kink. He wants another "wife," even if she shouldn't be a legal wife.

I'm not sure what you think polyamory means, but it doesn't mean group sex (although it can), not does it necessarily mean everyone in a configuration will have multiple partners themselves. My nesting partner, Pixi, and I are both polyamorous, but we have both dated people who were mono with us. For example, her current bf of 8 years has never dated anyone besides her in the time they've been together.

So, your male partner wants to date, live with or eventually "marry" more than one woman. Are you bi? Do your "master" and you imagine that you will be seeking bi women, in order to have threeway sex? Or are you straight and monogamous and do not seek FF sex or romantic love for yourself? In that case, you are monogamous, but involved in a polyamorous relationship.
 

HBs_willow

New member
I think you seek a "poly" relationship. Poly means more than one. Your partner desires more than one female lover-wife, and you desire a sister-wife, so you're both seeking polyamory. I imagine your partner is seeking love, not just sex or kink. He wants another "wife," even if she shouldn't be a legal wife.

I'm not sure what you think polyamory means, but it doesn't mean group sex (although it can), not does it necessarily mean everyone in a configuration will have multiple partners themselves. My nesting partner, Pixi, and I are both polyamorous, but we have both dated people who were mono with us. For example, her current bf of 8 years has never dated anyone besides her in the time they've been together.

So, your male partner wants to date, live with or eventually "marry" more than one woman. Are you bi? Do your "master" and you imagine that you will be seeking bi women, in order to have threeway sex? Or are you straight and monogamous and do not seek FF sex or romantic love for yourself? In that case, you are monogamous, but involved in a polyamorous relationship.
No, I mean polygynous. But thank you.
 

Magdlyn

Well-known member
No, I mean polygynous. But thank you.
So you are straight and do not want a romantic/sexual relationship with another woman. You are monogamous but willing to be in a polyamorous/gynos relationship. But if you husband is seeking multiple women he is polyamorous (loving many people)as well as polygynous (loving many women), since women are people.
 

MeeraReed

Active member
Why would you come to a polyamorous site insisting you are not seeking poly?
 

kdt26417

Official Greeter
Greetings HBs_willow,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you are looking for a polygynous relationship, not a poly relationship, but a polygynous relationship. Also, you have a D/s dynamic in your couple, where the male is Dominant, and both of the sister-wives would be submissive. You are already a submissive partner, a submissive wife if you will, I don't know if you are legally his wife. I take it you are his first wife. Correct me if I have misread you in any way. I am okay with what I know so far about who you are, what you want, and what you are not. Poly does have a different vibe than polygyny, especially D/ss polygyny. I do think you can learn a lot from this site about how to form a stable polygynous relationship. See especially Poly Relationships Corner, and let us know what spacific kinds of advice would be helpful. My first bit of advice to you would be to focus on communication, quality and quantity.

I'm glad you're here.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

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If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 

HBs_willow

New member
Greetings HBs_willow,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It sounds like you are looking for a polygynous relationship, not a poly relationship, but a polygynous relationship. Also, you have a D/s dynamic in your couple, where the male is Dominant, and both of the sister-wives would be submissive. You are already a submissive partner, a submissive wife if you will, I don't know if you are legally his wife. I take it you are his first wife. Correct me if I have misread you in any way. I am okay with what I know so far about who you are, what you want, and what you are not. Poly does have a different vibe than polygyny, especially D/ss polygyny. I do think you can learn a lot from this site about how to form a stable polygynous relationship. See especially Poly Relationships Corner, and let us know what spacific kinds of advice would be helpful. My first bit of advice to you would be to focus on communication, quality and quantity.

I'm glad you're here.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
Kevin,

Thank you for the warm greeting. Polygyny is a form of poly that he lives and I with him. The intent is for the second wife to of course serve him first but to also be sexually involved with me. It's not set in stone. Relationships are organic so things will develop as they will.

I found this definition online: The biggest difference between polyamory and polygamy is the gender of the partners. In polyamory, anyone of any gender can have multiple partners—the gender of the person or their partner does not matter. ... The most common form of polygamy by far is polygyny, a marriage in which one man marries multiple women

Are we looking to both date multiple partners? Not per se. He will have multiple wives which of course begins with dating. He then would like his wives to be physical with one another. I will be physical with the second wife, if the relationship develops that way, based on his direction. We are not married yet but that is the direction with me as his first wife in the triad.

"Poly" is a multi-faceted term. I also realize not everyone wants the same type of poly as another. And that's okay :)

I appreciate the recommendation for the other forum. I will look into that.

willow
 

Magdlyn

Well-known member
Polygamy means multiple marriages. The base is "gamos," Greek for marriage. Polygamy is illegal in the US, although, tragically, many offshoot Mormon cults still get away with "marrying" many wives, even underage girls.

You may not have a legal plural marriage in the US or any Western country. I am not sure about Africa, the Middle East, etc. Some people are requesting polyamorous marriages be legalized, which would be great for ethical polyamorous folks, but probably give the child rapists in the Mormon cults even more power. Ugh.

You and your hypothetical sister-wives, if you are involved with each other sexually, would be polyamorous, or at least polysexual.

Labels are annoying, but important.
 

kdt26417

Official Greeter
Willow,

Thanks for the additional info on definitions (of poly, polygamy, and polygyny). I think you are going to have a strong polygynous group. Strong Leadership, willing followers. Living the dream.

I'm just curious, how many wives would you prefer he have? Two? More?

Warm regards,
Kevin T.
 

Evie

Moderator
Sounds like thinly veiled unicorn hunting to me...
Not necessarily, there are very successful "families" like this on Fet. The Danishes spring to mind.
 

icesong

Moderator
Not necessarily, there are very successful "families" like this on Fet. The Danishes spring to mind.
And then there are the ones that start out looking that way but then... aren’t. (A certain Big Name Dom no longer on Fet that just got arrested, for instance...)
 

Magdlyn

Well-known member
Not necessarily, there are very successful "families" like this on Fet. The Danishes spring to mind.
The Danes? lol. They aren't pastries. ;)
 

Magdlyn

Well-known member
And then there are the ones that start out looking that way but then... aren’t. (A certain Big Name Dom no longer on Fet that just got arrested, for instance...)
I'm thinking of one who was arrested a couple years ago. Wolf something?

Ethics are so important. I hope our OP has a truly ethical Dom.
 

Evie

Moderator
The Danes? lol. They aren't pastries. ;)
They did a gorgeous photoshoot around the kitchen table with danish pastries, I figured I'd just keep up the humorous label 😃
 

icesong

Moderator
I'm thinking of one who was arrested a couple years ago. Wolf something?

Ethics are so important. I hope our OP has a truly ethical Dom.
Nope, this one's recent, like 2 weeks ago (though apparently he and Wolf knew and disliked each other, LOL). Google Cadifor or James Robert Davis for more info.
 

Evie

Moderator
Oh golly, I hadn't caught wind of this latest arrest.

Wolf really disliked James because one of James' partners was underage when he collared her. James, on the other hand, claimed he was saving her from the Wolf.

Polygamous families have higher risks than average. I also hope the op's man is ethical.
 
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