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hey my wife and i have been hapily married for 12 years and have decided we want to try an open maraige she is bi and wants to experiment and try other woman and i am unsure of what i want but intrigued to try new things. any advice on how to make this work for us just starting out is greatly appreciated.


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The best thing you can do is read read read. Then communicate about your feelings and desires. I would recommend reading the book Opening Up, for starters. It covers all the basics of creating and sustaining healthy polyamory.


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Greetings bigmac,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

You are in the early stages of trying/contemplating open/poly. There is a lot to be learned about this topic, so spend some time reading and posting here. Opening Up (by Tristan Taormino) is an excellent book; I recommend you read it before venturing out into the open/poly world.

Kevin T., "official greeter" :)


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