New, want to learn more

Well, another update here. We had an amazing weekend, on saturday night we went to a famous mall on my city she never been to and she spotted a girl of her likeness going to the mall games (you know, this games that are on the mall; dumb, but I have no idea how are they call on english) and told me to go upstairs to see the games; we went and I showed her the place and talk about how it was before. While walking she told me that the girl was there (yes it was pretty) and joking I told her: why dont you go with your new girlfriend? and she, laughing, replied something like: on my way. Which took me by suprise, but I cant say it was in a horny way, it made my heart tingle. And we had a quick and small talk about her having a gf, but it was two, three words.

Ngl, it fuel me with some confidence and I was planning on having the talk this weekend and show her all my posts here. Mainly to be honest and to know what she really feels about her bi-tendencies.

Hope I didnt weird you too much. Have a nice day fellas
 
Good luck to you :)

hetcurious19 said:
First question: I find it cool. Both in the sexual aspect and the personal aspect; maybe Im just fantasizing about it but I have this sense that it could be a life changing experience for the better later on in our lives (basically when we have some stability). Difficult as well but I kinda want to see what happens in the long run, we are definitely not fans of brief experiences/relationships.
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Be a little careful about that "definitely" here for two reasons:
- you can't be yet sure your gf isn't a fan of short-term, it could be part of her exploration
- even if you hope for long-term, some or many of your attempts to get to know someone might end up being brief :)
I'm also a fan of long-term and getting to know people really well. I still enjoyed some brief kinky encouters. It's a consistent experience of people that the subjective importance of a relationship isn't always measured by longevity :)
 
Tinwen said:
Good luck to you :)


Be a little careful about that "definitely" here for two reasons:
- you can't be yet sure your gf isn't a fan of short-term, it could be part of her exploration
- even if you hope for long-term, some or many of your attempts to get to know someone might end up being brief :)
I'm also a fan of long-term and getting to know people really well. I still enjoyed some brief kinky encouters. It's a consistent experience of people that the subjective importance of a relationship isn't always measured by longevity :)
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Im aware of the "briefness" that I would find, Is in my expectations because I cant force anyone into long-term. I dont really grasp what you mean with "that". You mean about how I should approach the talk?
 
hetcurious19 said:
Well, another update here.
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New update here, didnt tell her; but as we spent another great weekend another incentive to speak came up.

Here is the context: we saw "The Last Five Years," a musical about the story of a marriage till their break up. We cried a lot and I'm glad we did.
As we were leaving, we were ranting about the movie and the behaviour of the male protagonist. After a while, she said: "Well, if feelings for someone else would pop out, I knew we would talk things out, even if its hurts."

What do you guys think? is this a green flag to have the convo? I was planning on doing it since she will come home this weekend, where I can show her all of my posts here.
 
I think having the convo is something you really want to do. You are always going to wonder how it would have gone if you had spoken up. Plus there is the principle of honesty in a relationship, you don't want to keep secrets from your partner, especially about something this big. Sooner or later you have to talk. Perhaps start with something like, "Honey, I have been learning about polyamory lately, and I wonder if we could talk about it."
 
kdt26417 said:
I think having the convo is something you really want to do. You are always going to wonder how it would have gone if you had spoken up. Plus there is the principle of honesty in a relationship, you don't want to keep secrets from your partner, especially about something this big. Sooner or later you have to talk. Perhaps start with something like, "Honey, I have been learning about polyamory lately, and I wonder if we could talk about it."
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The only thing needed know is grabbing my balls. I thought of sharing all my post here because my thoughts are solidified, and less abstract than my thoughts.
 
You'll know when the time is right.
 
hetcurious19 said:
The only thing needed know is grabbing my balls. I thought of sharing all my post here because my thoughts are solidified, and less abstract than my thoughts.
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I don't know what you meant by "needed know is grabbing my balls." Is that a saying in a language other than English?

Any updates?
 
Magdlyn said:
I don't know what you meant by "needed know is grabbing my balls." Is that a saying in a language other than English?

Any updates?
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I think the OP was saying "the only thing needed NOW is to pluck up the courage" (which we call "growing a pair" in NZ, pair being testicles).
 
Evie said:
I think the OP was saying "the only thing needed NOW is to pluck up the courage" (which we call "growing a pair" in NZ, pair being testicles).
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Ah, thanks. The old confusion between "now" and "know." Yeah, we say "grow a pair" in the States, too.
 
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