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GalaGirl said:
I think this whole situation is too much for internet people to help. You have a lot of layers going on and not like just 1 or 2 problems.

So I think taking a time out with you in the spare room is a good time. Slow some of this down.

Stop all this back and forth talking. It is stressful for both.

Decide to only discuss relationship issues with the therapist present at your appointments. What you each can do is write things down in a notebook as it comes up, but not get deep into it with each other. Esp if it leads to arguments, circle conversations, etc. That is not productive. Instead take the notebook with you to therapy.

Could also get a second opinion on the child custody thing.
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Funny tho ya’ll are helping me!
 
It can be helpful to have a thread here, but it can't be the only thing.

You two need professionals. You already have couple therapist. You might need 2nd opinion lawyer next.
 
GalaGirl said:
It can be helpful to have a thread here, but it can't be the only thing.

You two need professionals. You already have couple therapist. You might need 2nd opinion lawyer next.
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O I got a therapist hahaha she helps a lot and he just finally got one to yesterday! So maybe there’s hope. Thank u so much tho I am glad this site exists and people that have been in this for along time give great advice!
 
Hi Roxy,

I'm very sorry that you are trapped in this bad situation. You are just going to have to make the best of it, you can't leave your husband (because that would cut you off from your baby boy), so you are going to have to endure his wrath (or let him do whatever he wants). When he says, "I value our relationship over a friendship," I don't think I believe him. I don't think you are wrong to want him to prove it.

Sympathetically,
Kevin T.
 
kdt26417 said:
Hi Roxy,

I'm very sorry that you are trapped in this bad situation. You are just going to have to make the best of it, you can't leave your husband (because that would cut you off from your baby boy), so you are going to have to endure his wrath (or let him do whatever he wants). When he says, "I value our relationship over a friendship," I don't think I believe him. I don't think you are wrong to want him to prove it.

Sympathetically,
Kevin T.
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Ty Kevin 😊. We have separated as of last night but hopefully we can be civil on a custody agreement lol and I didn’t believe him and he took it back last night anyways hahaha
 
SEASONEDpolyAgain said:
Yes it was because she has herpes and made yoh feel insecure.
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Nobody wants HSV 2 and it’s not controlling to say that I don’t want to get it. Lol I didn’t actively look for a partner with it, and so I was well within my rights to say I’m not having sex with u unless I know for sure ur clean after seeing her. It’s a boundary. Doesn’t matter anymore we r separated and he can now do what he wants with who he wants.
 
Hi Roxy,

I'm sorry you had to separate. It sounds like it is for the best, he definitely wants to be free to do whatever he wants. I hope he'll be civil about a custody agreement.

Regards,
Kevin T.
 
It sounds like you have decided to separate.

Even if he's flipflopping all around? You carry through then.

Separate for now and keep moving it forward towards a divorce, shared custody, and coparenting as peaceful as circumstances allow.
 
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