Now I’m really confused

[politeme]

Hi everyone,
Cas78 here in need of more advice for the ongoing saga that is my open relationship. If you recall, my BF vacillates between loving and liking me...and had a new GF he wanted to take on vacation, etc. As of Monday, he says they’ve decided to break up because she is monogamous and doesn’t want him to date anyone else, including me. He obsviously isn’t interested in doing this, but admitted he will miss her as he’s developed “feelings” for her. At this point in our conversation I became very upset, packed up my things and said I wanted to leave. He calmed me down and asked me why I was so upset. I explained that I needed more than for him to simply like me (after 2 years of dating). I felt very emotionally insecure in our relationship and didn’t trust him to close the door on me at any moment. He then admitted that he did actually love me and didn’t want to break up. He shows his love through actions and I admitted that he does make me feel loved by all the things he does for me (which is a lot and amazing). This is where things get sticky, at the end of our conversation he says that he doesn’t think dating other people is such a good idea as it’s hard on me and doesn’t allow us to really focus on our relationship...and that he wants to be non monogamous together (something I’ve wanted all along truth be told). I am shocked that these words came out of his mouth and don’t know if I should be happy because this is what I want too or terrified because he can at any moment run back to his vanilla GF. And in the meantime, while he was busy getting to know her, I (by his encouragement), found another BF who I very much like and don’t want to end things with. So what to do now. Advice please!!!

Well, I liker to hear from you. no reason to be confuse, if any partner ignore or leave through his behaviour you should choose any other on this Forum. I want to make relationship and want to get taste of partnership, what happen after that. I looking partners but no one coming to me to discuss ask about me.

 

[Magdlyn]

Congratulations on growing a pair. It is a good thing. You deserve better.

 

[kdt26417]

Hi Cas,

I'm so sorry to hear that you have broken up with your boyfriend. I don't think he treated you right, and now you do have the time and opportunity to find someone better. But it is still painful to break up, I know you loved him very much, and maybe he had his good points, and times that you enjoyed being with him. All that has come to an end now. You will have to grieve for the empty space that is left inside where he used to be. Although I suspect, that it's not his absence that is hurting you so much, but rather, the way he's treated you. No one deserves to be pushed away, the way he pushed you away. You are brave to cut the ties with him, and I believe you will find someone better.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.