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Disneydean

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Hi. I used to be in a Poly relationship when I was in my late 30's. Now I am almost 55 and realized, that I still want that. I cannot get what I need, nor do I feel like I have so little love as to only give it to one person. However, I feel like my window for finding a relationship, even dating people who may feel the same, is passing me by. Are there any resources for people who are looking for other people who are over 50? Just curious...Thanks
 
Never old for dating. My grandma reconnected with her old love in their 70's :)
 
Disneydean said:
Hi. I used to be in a Poly relationship when I was in my late 30's. Now I am almost 55 and realized, that I still want that. I cannot get what I need, nor do I feel like I have so little love as to only give it to one person. However, I feel like my window for finding a relationship, even dating people who may feel the same, is passing me by. Are there any resources for people who are looking for other people who are over 50? Just curious...Thanks
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Hi. I see from another post of yours that you're a woman in your 50s. I officially separated from my husband, a mono marriage, at age 53, divorcing a few years later. I am now 70 and I've had no problem finding dates and partners. I am open-minded about age. I find some younger men (and women, I'm queer) of younger ages are more mature and/or compatible with me as people my own age or older. So I recommend being open-minded.

I used to to the OK Cupid dating site when I first started dating, but it's not as good as it used to be. Nowadays some poly people find more luck on Feeld.
 
Hello Disneydean,

Don't give up, try a couple of poly-friendly dating sites/apps. Feeld and OKCupid are two that I know of. Also you can search for poly meetups in your area. Google "North Carolina polyamory," "North Carolina ENM," or polyamory or ENM with the name of your nearest major city. Finally, any way you can get out there and make friends, clubs, classes, or fringe events such as indie concerts, Ren Faires, sci-fi cons, BDSM munches, or what have you. Age is just a number, if you believe in yourself, you can find those special someones.

Regards,
Kevin T.
 
Disneydean said:
Hi. I used to be in a Poly relationship when I was in my late 30's. Now I am almost 55 and realized, that I still want that. I cannot get what I need, nor do I feel like I have so little love as to only give it to one person. However, I feel like my window for finding a relationship, even dating people who may feel the same, is passing me by. Are there any resources for people who are looking for other people who are over 50? Just curious...Thanks
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I've never used dating specific apps or strategies, but I'm about your age and sometimes find really good chemistry with others who share a hobby or a (non-poly) community with me. I haven't built any new "partner" relationships in a while, but definitely there have been sparkles and various levels of intimacy that could have deepened if I weren't a bit saturated. I ended up with more dear friends I could talk to about anything, which is a kind of relating I love to share, too.

So, at the risk of being cliche -- go out and do the stuff you love to do, and meet others who like the same things. Some subset of those will click, and some subset of those might REALLY click. Could certainly do that alongside the more direct apps and strategies.
 
I found a dating site that specializes in polyamory for seniors: Senior Match. Hopefully that helps.
 
i'm 44 and i feel this deeply.

i'm a reasonably handsome guy--average, i think, but i take pretty good care of myself, and i've been drinking milk--and on paper i think i'm a pretty desirable partner. (my go-to joke is that unfortunately, women don't date guys on paper, unless they have a stationery fetish, and that's not really my thing.)

however, on dating apps, i do awful. awful awful. even just on mainstream/traditional apps, very few matches. don't even get me started on what a waste of time feeld has been. i haven't done okcupid in awhile, last time i tried it, it was spam central, but maybe i'll try it again.

when i go to lifestyle events locally, i get a really strong sense that this is a young person's game and it's really not for me. i'm the first to admit that i'm somewhat pessimistic, but i'm pessimistic because i'm following the evidence. i just haven't done well, and i don't know if that's because of something about me in particular or because of some demographic i fall into.

regardless, it's tough out here, but i think maybe it is for all of us, in some way or another. i don't think being older rules anything out for you. perhaps it won't be as easy as for someone in their 20s, but especially depending on your locality, etc, i think doors are still open.
 
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