FallenAngelina, sure. Happy to clarify. I was responding to OP from original #1 and from post #19.
JammyJam seems torn on wanting to help/accommodate BF. So initially agreed. But on further reflection, now thinks the "dick size agreement" as stated is "stupid." Because how is it fair? And how would one even enforce something like that? So not exactly feeling happy about it. But tempted to agree anyway.
So I'm suggesting they keep talking some more and frame the updated agreement around the the actual fear. Which seems to be about BF being afraid to be treated bad by some new potential. If the frame the agreement around the actual bad behavior, then it's not on dick size.
Then BF can still feel safe that JammyJam isn't going to continue to date anyone who comes along and starts treating BF poorly.
And JammyJam is not signing up to be the "dick size monitor" which they find objectionable.
HTH!
Galagirl
JammyJam said:I originally agreed to the stipulation without really thinking about the consequences because I wanted to be supportive. Unfortunately I don’t really know how to enforce such a ridiculous rule…
JammyJam said:I do not know what to do… I don’t even care about my arbitrary future lover’s penis, I just don’t want unfair restrictions placed on me.
JammyJam said:When I step back and look at my situation, I have a supportive man that fights to understand me, and effortlessly agrees to adhere to my boundaries and limitations. I feel like since I don’t care at all about this issue, I’m not sacrificing anything, and I am tempted to agree to this boundary. Even though I think it’s stupid...
JammyJam seems torn on wanting to help/accommodate BF. So initially agreed. But on further reflection, now thinks the "dick size agreement" as stated is "stupid." Because how is it fair? And how would one even enforce something like that? So not exactly feeling happy about it. But tempted to agree anyway.
So I'm suggesting they keep talking some more and frame the updated agreement around the the actual fear. Which seems to be about BF being afraid to be treated bad by some new potential. If the frame the agreement around the actual bad behavior, then it's not on dick size.
Then BF can still feel safe that JammyJam isn't going to continue to date anyone who comes along and starts treating BF poorly.
And JammyJam is not signing up to be the "dick size monitor" which they find objectionable.
HTH!
Galagirl
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