newtoday
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I struggle to understand why you'd even contemplate that risk with a new partner when you have two loving , healthy partners already.
You may feel the need to add to your life but do they really deserve to have to consider this risk to them as well?
Sex is one thing. Long term affects are another, physically and psychologically.
DH did make a great point about them being Mono ; they choose you and only you , and to put either of them at risk seems unfair. They may say they'll love you regardless if you get the disease , but will they still want to be intimate with you if they knew you (and hence they) are at risk of catching herpes from you, and potentially who knows what else? Is that a chance you want to take for a new partner that you barely know?
Exciting. Yes. Connection. Yes. But I'd step back and remove the emotion and think about this logically first. You have much to lose. Why purposely go down this path when you already have the loves of your life?
Just my thoughts ...
You may feel the need to add to your life but do they really deserve to have to consider this risk to them as well?
Sex is one thing. Long term affects are another, physically and psychologically.
DH did make a great point about them being Mono ; they choose you and only you , and to put either of them at risk seems unfair. They may say they'll love you regardless if you get the disease , but will they still want to be intimate with you if they knew you (and hence they) are at risk of catching herpes from you, and potentially who knows what else? Is that a chance you want to take for a new partner that you barely know?
Exciting. Yes. Connection. Yes. But I'd step back and remove the emotion and think about this logically first. You have much to lose. Why purposely go down this path when you already have the loves of your life?
Just my thoughts ...