Remi
New member
I have some really strong beliefs that lead me to believe that something like a "poly island" is necessary.
Doesn't have to actually be an island, but just a location where the culture is well known and flourishing, as if this online community existed physically in the real world. Sound crazy? I think it sounds doable.
Does anyone else think such a thing would be a good idea? How about a terrible idea?
Personally, I feel that being trained from a young age to love only one person is kind of the source of the discomfort when people start to transition into poly relationships.
I'd even go so far as to say that the idea that mono relationships are the only option is actively making the world a more dismal place. The thought that a potentially good relationship can be shut down in it's tracks because "i really like another human already" is super iffy to me.
The world just seems like a better place when love is allowed to flow practically and with limited restrictions. When we place limits on who we can love and why we can love we break other people and it's a chain that continues on infinitely.
I believe we exist to evolve, all of that evolution and progress is in service of enhancing our ability to love. Not necessarily romantic love, but romantic love as well.
I just want to help people to get out of their own way. Witnessing all this tragedy is breaking my heart and I don't think finding my own happiness will be enough. I want everyone to be empowered to find it.
We all have different needs at different times and carrying around the expectation that one person will be able to give us what we need just seems silly.
That said, it's not my intention to step on any toes, it's just my opinion, which is subject to change on an evidence basis.
So what's the path to legitimacy actually look like?
I think we need to be on the map, literally.
Current mood: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVpJGGQHSqc
Doesn't have to actually be an island, but just a location where the culture is well known and flourishing, as if this online community existed physically in the real world. Sound crazy? I think it sounds doable.
Does anyone else think such a thing would be a good idea? How about a terrible idea?
Personally, I feel that being trained from a young age to love only one person is kind of the source of the discomfort when people start to transition into poly relationships.
I'd even go so far as to say that the idea that mono relationships are the only option is actively making the world a more dismal place. The thought that a potentially good relationship can be shut down in it's tracks because "i really like another human already" is super iffy to me.
The world just seems like a better place when love is allowed to flow practically and with limited restrictions. When we place limits on who we can love and why we can love we break other people and it's a chain that continues on infinitely.
I believe we exist to evolve, all of that evolution and progress is in service of enhancing our ability to love. Not necessarily romantic love, but romantic love as well.
I just want to help people to get out of their own way. Witnessing all this tragedy is breaking my heart and I don't think finding my own happiness will be enough. I want everyone to be empowered to find it.
We all have different needs at different times and carrying around the expectation that one person will be able to give us what we need just seems silly.
That said, it's not my intention to step on any toes, it's just my opinion, which is subject to change on an evidence basis.
So what's the path to legitimacy actually look like?
I think we need to be on the map, literally.
Current mood: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVpJGGQHSqc