Rickmanger
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So, I find myself in an unusual situation ~yet again~ (original situation is https://polyamory.com/threads/the-u...ld-friend-suddenly-isnt-just-a-friend.153630/ ).
Our mutual friends still hang out with Bryan (soon-to-be ex spouse of part of our group - was a quad, then a triad after the group decided that the fourth was not wanted anymore for a plethora of reasons, then I joined to make it a W), and one of them let slip something about the upcoming divorce. Specifically, Bryan finally got a lawyer, after totaling his truck (not his fault, at least) and using the proceeds to pay off the loan and buy something cheap to get himself around.
This has been a somewhat acrimonious process, as he doesn't want to give his ex-spouse anything she's owed (even the equity in the house)... the mutual friends asked me to keep it quiet, but... this is now my family too, and it directly impacts them and me (but we're not out to that group of friends). He keeps filing bullshit things with the court to make life difficult and use up the money before the divorce can be finalized too (and he's trying to tap out the retirement accounts/etc).
So... WTF would you do? Do you pass it on to the rest of your now-family, but violate the trust of the friends you're not out to? Or do you keep their faith, but know that it will be a surprise (hopefully a good one, laws here are pretty strict and the lawyer ~might~ put an end to all this shit and tell him what he really has to do), and that it might come out that you knew ahead of time.
Our mutual friends still hang out with Bryan (soon-to-be ex spouse of part of our group - was a quad, then a triad after the group decided that the fourth was not wanted anymore for a plethora of reasons, then I joined to make it a W), and one of them let slip something about the upcoming divorce. Specifically, Bryan finally got a lawyer, after totaling his truck (not his fault, at least) and using the proceeds to pay off the loan and buy something cheap to get himself around.
This has been a somewhat acrimonious process, as he doesn't want to give his ex-spouse anything she's owed (even the equity in the house)... the mutual friends asked me to keep it quiet, but... this is now my family too, and it directly impacts them and me (but we're not out to that group of friends). He keeps filing bullshit things with the court to make life difficult and use up the money before the divorce can be finalized too (and he's trying to tap out the retirement accounts/etc).
So... WTF would you do? Do you pass it on to the rest of your now-family, but violate the trust of the friends you're not out to? Or do you keep their faith, but know that it will be a surprise (hopefully a good one, laws here are pretty strict and the lawyer ~might~ put an end to all this shit and tell him what he really has to do), and that it might come out that you knew ahead of time.