Phantessa
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I only recently learned about polyamory a few years ago. After speaking to a friend who is polyamorous, I broke down in tears because it just clicked for me. Suddenly, the feelings I had for other people while in a relationship was ok. My husband and I began to converse about it and we were open to exploring polyamory. I found someone to explore an online relationship with and months later I met him in person. He scared the shit out of me. He was physically aggressive and expected sex right away… I went to a public place with him and came running home. Epic fail...
My husband and I decided to have a child. During my pregnancy and for some time after we decided to put polyamory on hold. She’s 6 months now. Pregnancy and now parenthood has taken a major toll on our relationship. I know we made a good decision to put polyamory on hold. However, I recognize the desire to explore a second relationship to get my emotional needs met because he’s pulled away. I know we need to get our relationship on solid ground before we can explore any other relationships. We’ve started seeing a counselor to work on our relationship. It’s been hard and I know the first two years that a couple has a child are usually the hardest, but I never expected this. So, I post this thread: 1. To vent 2. To find out if anyone else had a similar experience and how things worked out 3. To get some support and/or advice.
My husband and I decided to have a child. During my pregnancy and for some time after we decided to put polyamory on hold. She’s 6 months now. Pregnancy and now parenthood has taken a major toll on our relationship. I know we made a good decision to put polyamory on hold. However, I recognize the desire to explore a second relationship to get my emotional needs met because he’s pulled away. I know we need to get our relationship on solid ground before we can explore any other relationships. We’ve started seeing a counselor to work on our relationship. It’s been hard and I know the first two years that a couple has a child are usually the hardest, but I never expected this. So, I post this thread: 1. To vent 2. To find out if anyone else had a similar experience and how things worked out 3. To get some support and/or advice.