Amethystsparrow
New member
Hi everyone,
In the beginning you all were insightful about my attempted triad relations with Sunshine, and you still are and I am seeking your help again, maybe for the last time or leading up to the ending.
I have been an emotional wreck. Sunshine and Snarky have had big arguments, arguments that I was dragged into and atop of red flags flying high my emotional and mental wellbeing has gone out the window. My concerns had been rebuffed and disregarded and I simply am not made for poly, not with Sunshine's demeanor. She has become needy, clingy and disregards the other partners feelings when we are being open, clear and communicating. It has gotten to the point my therapist has great concern for me and feels that having a poly relationship of this nature is making matters worse for me. Snarky is in a constant drained state, he's vacant and devoid of emotion after she has her moods, she does not apologize and his time with our daughter is being affected by it. As for me, I can't do this, my therapist stresses this is not good for me and I've had a total of 2 big melt downs in the span of a few days between. I cannot stress enough that I have tried everything, and I am tired..so very tired. On top of that I am not being heard, I have been trying to tell everyone that I am on the breaking point, that I needed to back out of this and how unhealthy the relationship is getting yet I would be rebuffed and it was pushed off as " oh, it's just her hormones" when no, I was literally internally screaming for help and to stop this, I am not ready, they are not ready and in the short span of 2 months everything kept blowing up. Arguments, tiffs, emotions on all sides leading to internal emotional mayhem and my breakdowns.
Sunshine is out at work, and it was Snarky I told first and had asked him to give me time to calm down before talking to sunshine..he did not give me that time and I was forced to tell her over the phone. She would not listen to me, and the fact my mental and emotional health wasn't enough to show her this had to stop, she kept demanding more reasons then that, despite telling her about the therapist, despite telling her how I break down and am on the brink of breaking. It's not enough. I beg of everyone, what more can I do? I want off this derailing train, so so badly! I haven;t slept, I haven;t eaten and I am shaking..I see my therapist monday, but I need help to show her that this really is bad and it must stop.
In the beginning you all were insightful about my attempted triad relations with Sunshine, and you still are and I am seeking your help again, maybe for the last time or leading up to the ending.
I have been an emotional wreck. Sunshine and Snarky have had big arguments, arguments that I was dragged into and atop of red flags flying high my emotional and mental wellbeing has gone out the window. My concerns had been rebuffed and disregarded and I simply am not made for poly, not with Sunshine's demeanor. She has become needy, clingy and disregards the other partners feelings when we are being open, clear and communicating. It has gotten to the point my therapist has great concern for me and feels that having a poly relationship of this nature is making matters worse for me. Snarky is in a constant drained state, he's vacant and devoid of emotion after she has her moods, she does not apologize and his time with our daughter is being affected by it. As for me, I can't do this, my therapist stresses this is not good for me and I've had a total of 2 big melt downs in the span of a few days between. I cannot stress enough that I have tried everything, and I am tired..so very tired. On top of that I am not being heard, I have been trying to tell everyone that I am on the breaking point, that I needed to back out of this and how unhealthy the relationship is getting yet I would be rebuffed and it was pushed off as " oh, it's just her hormones" when no, I was literally internally screaming for help and to stop this, I am not ready, they are not ready and in the short span of 2 months everything kept blowing up. Arguments, tiffs, emotions on all sides leading to internal emotional mayhem and my breakdowns.
Sunshine is out at work, and it was Snarky I told first and had asked him to give me time to calm down before talking to sunshine..he did not give me that time and I was forced to tell her over the phone. She would not listen to me, and the fact my mental and emotional health wasn't enough to show her this had to stop, she kept demanding more reasons then that, despite telling her about the therapist, despite telling her how I break down and am on the brink of breaking. It's not enough. I beg of everyone, what more can I do? I want off this derailing train, so so badly! I haven;t slept, I haven;t eaten and I am shaking..I see my therapist monday, but I need help to show her that this really is bad and it must stop.