Self love= self pleasure?

[Miriam223]

For a while I have been wondering how other people get to know themselves and how they figure out how to do a self plesure things like masturbation? Who told you about masturbation? Was it brother/ sister or a good friend? Or maybe you have talked about it in the family?
As I grew up in the family in which no one talked about sex and self pleasure, I have been interested in masturbation lately. I have found several studies about this autoerotic activity and I have decided to make a research in this topic.

I have made a survey called "Attitudes towards masturbation", I would appreciate if you would take a part in it (it takes about 6-7 minutes)

Here is the link to the survey:

Anonymous survey on your views on masturbation

Take this survey powered by surveymonkey.com. Create your own surveys for free.

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Thank you very much!

P.S. Also, would be great to know your first experience with masturbation

 

[kdt26417]

Hello Miriam223,

I took your survey, it wasn't difficult, it took about 18 minutes to do. I hope my input will help you in your research.

Sincerely,
Kevin T.

 

[TXretired]

All done. First time as a Youngen. Touching down yonder. Gee that feels good. Went from there. Folks taught it was sinful.

 

[Evie]

It would have been better with some open ended questions to clarify certain things. E.g. one cannot discuss these things with a sibling if one does not have siblings. Also, the notion of discussing masturbation with someone when first encountering it, vs. discussing it with someone 30 years hence is not provided for.

 

[Miriam223]

It would have been better with some open ended questions to clarify certain things. E.g. one cannot discuss these things with a sibling if one does not have siblings. Also, the notion of discussing masturbation with someone when first encountering it, vs. discussing it with someone 30 years hence is not provided for.

Thank you for your suggestions!

 

[Magdlyn]

For a while I have been wondering how other people get to know themselves and how they figure out how to do a self plesure things like masturbation? Who told you about masturbation? Was it brother/ sister or a good friend? Or maybe you have talked about it in the family?
As I grew up in the family in which no one talked about sex and self pleasure, I have been interested in masturbation lately. I have found several studies about this autoerotic activity and I have decided to make a research in this topic.

I have made a survey called "Attitudes towards masturbation", I would appreciate if you would take a part in it (it takes about 6-7 minutes)

Here is the link to the survey:

Anonymous survey on your views on masturbation

Take this survey powered by surveymonkey.com. Create your own surveys for free.

www.surveymonkey.com

Thank you very much!

P.S. Also, would be great to know your first experience with masturbation

What is your intention with this survey? Is it just for personal use, or for a class at university? If it's just for your personal information, why don't you ask your questions on the board?

I started a thread here once called Is Masturbation Sex? You might want to do a search for it. You'll get a lot of good info there that people willingly shared. We are all anonymous here.

 

[Miriam223]

What is your intention with this survey? Is it just for personal use, or for a class at university? If it's just for your personal information, why don't you ask your questions on the board?

I started a thread here once called Is Masturbation Sex? You might want to do a search for it. You'll get a lot of good info there that people willingly shared. We are all anonymous here.

This is for my Bachelor`s thesis as a final research to graduate from university. I will do the search, thanks

 

[SarahD]

I can not get past question 8 because I'm in multiple committed relationships but not married to anyone.

 

[Miriam223]

I can not get past question 8 because I'm in multiple committed relationships but not married to anyone.

Then you should pick first choice of aswer - married or in a commited relationship. The answer you described corresponds to this statement. It is not necessary to be married as you are in commited relationship

 

[SarahD]

Then you should pick first choice of aswer - married or in a commited relationship. The answer you described corresponds to this statement. It is not necessary to be married as you are in commited relationship

Ok! Done.

 

[Evie]

I guess here is a good place to put a few thoughts about discussing masturbation.

When I was of the age that I first discovered masturbation, I did not have someone to discuss it with. It had never been mentioned in any of my sex education books or talks, at home or at school, and I didn't know how to bring it up with a friend, although there was one friend who was more comfortable with it and eventually brought it up with me. I think I'd vaguely heard jokey references to boys going blind, but I didn't actually understand what that meant. I was about 11 when masturbation became a nightly ritual. I never spoke to anyone about my own practices or even really discussed masturbation in the abstract. It was finally a boyfriend who got me talking about and engaging with self stimulation during sex.

Later in life, I am very happy to discuss masturbation with appropriate people, including toy recommendations or preferred techniques. I have been quite detailed when talking with my long distance partner. I can imagine I will get to an age where I am less inclined to discuss it again as I have fewer friends who would care to have those conversations. But I had some really great chats with my bff in our 30s. 30s are a fun time for becoming less inhibited in conversations and caring less about being judged.

I'm still pretty early into 40s overall, plus the social retardation that is a product of Covid restrictions means I kinda feel like I'll have a bit of catching up to do on the socialising with friends front and comparing life experiences at this age.

 

[Emmjay]

Great thread Miriam!

Looking back, I found that guilt with touching myself may have been implanted from the womb. If you did it, you didn't talk about it and you sure as hell didn't discuss it. I remember feeling like I was really doing something wrong and going to one of my sisters and her answering with: "Ewwwwwww!" My father came in and asked what was going on. (Big Catholic). I told him I was doing something really bad and his answer was, "Well, stop it."

So there was that. When the hormones hit and along with it, my fuck you attitude. (No offense, but much offense to all at that time,) I no longer cared and explored.

I made sure to remove any guilt from my own daughter and we had the sex talk with a positive spike on masterbation. I think it's important to know yourself. How can you teach others how to pleasure you, if you don't know how?