How do you handle the sense of urgency in new relationships, when actually the wisest way is to go slowly and give everyone time to adjust?
I have been dating a friend of mine for a while now. I am married, and so are they. This is quite new for all four of us, not the first try with non-monogamy but new anyway. And we all agree that taking things slow is very good idea. I think I am the one who needs this the most. Still I have this constant need for something more to happen, to go faster and be more involved. Even when I don't want that in reality (yet)!
I guess it's the relationship escalator idea in my head, some leftovers from monogamous thinking. "Act fast or be left out." How do I stop thinking like that? We have a good thing going on here and thinking like this is unnecessary and harmful.
I chose this forum because I don't really need relationship advise for me, but wanted to have a more general discussion about the subject. I'm hoping you have some brilliant ideas about this.
I have been dating a friend of mine for a while now. I am married, and so are they. This is quite new for all four of us, not the first try with non-monogamy but new anyway. And we all agree that taking things slow is very good idea. I think I am the one who needs this the most. Still I have this constant need for something more to happen, to go faster and be more involved. Even when I don't want that in reality (yet)!
I guess it's the relationship escalator idea in my head, some leftovers from monogamous thinking. "Act fast or be left out." How do I stop thinking like that? We have a good thing going on here and thinking like this is unnecessary and harmful.
I chose this forum because I don't really need relationship advise for me, but wanted to have a more general discussion about the subject. I'm hoping you have some brilliant ideas about this.