I’m not sure where to start, so please bear with me. (Edit: I apologize for the length, my bad 
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So basically, I’m in my first year of undergrad, and me (f) and my group of friends bonded really closely in the dorms over the first semester. (We now all live together in on-campus apartments though.) One of my friends (m) instantly sparked with another friend (f), but didn’t “officially” get together until the start of the second semester for personal reasons. For the record, she’s bi and he’s straight, and as far as I’m aware they’re both monogamous.
My issue is that I’ve been getting increasingly closer to him since fall break. We called or texted almost every day during winter break, and some of them were pretty deep. Over spring break we did the same thing, only sometimes it would be a Group FaceTime with her too, and we would intentionally all fall asleep on the phone. Him and I have also become incredibly physically comfortable with each other (cuddling on the couch, holding hands, leaning on shoulders, forehead and hairline kisses, running hands through hair, resting or falling asleep with his head in lap or on my chest, etc.). And since her and I live in the same apartment he pretty much lives here as well, and will deliberately seek out or squish his way into sitting between us in the couch instead of next to one. Most nights now end with the three of us hanging out for a bit in her room, and her and I cuddled up to opposite sides of him for several minutes before I leave so they can sleep (it’s been indicated that if the bed were bigger, I would stay some nights). He’s never looked at me in a way that’s remotely sexual, and her relationship with him is definitely different from mine (more playful, I think?).
I know I love him, and we’ve said “I love you” to each other often, but I don’t know if he means it romantically or platonically. I’m pretty sure it’s romantic from my end (but not sexual, since I’m ace), and I really like her too (right now just platonically). I am 100% open to a polyamorous relationship with the both of them, be it a V or a triad. Does it sound like the potential is there, or like it’s something I should talk to them about? Or should I stick to being just their friend, and work to get over him and move on?
This is completely new territory for me, my only other relationship was at the beginning of high school and was super short, I have no idea what I’m doing.
)So basically, I’m in my first year of undergrad, and me (f) and my group of friends bonded really closely in the dorms over the first semester. (We now all live together in on-campus apartments though.) One of my friends (m) instantly sparked with another friend (f), but didn’t “officially” get together until the start of the second semester for personal reasons. For the record, she’s bi and he’s straight, and as far as I’m aware they’re both monogamous.
My issue is that I’ve been getting increasingly closer to him since fall break. We called or texted almost every day during winter break, and some of them were pretty deep. Over spring break we did the same thing, only sometimes it would be a Group FaceTime with her too, and we would intentionally all fall asleep on the phone. Him and I have also become incredibly physically comfortable with each other (cuddling on the couch, holding hands, leaning on shoulders, forehead and hairline kisses, running hands through hair, resting or falling asleep with his head in lap or on my chest, etc.). And since her and I live in the same apartment he pretty much lives here as well, and will deliberately seek out or squish his way into sitting between us in the couch instead of next to one. Most nights now end with the three of us hanging out for a bit in her room, and her and I cuddled up to opposite sides of him for several minutes before I leave so they can sleep (it’s been indicated that if the bed were bigger, I would stay some nights). He’s never looked at me in a way that’s remotely sexual, and her relationship with him is definitely different from mine (more playful, I think?).
I know I love him, and we’ve said “I love you” to each other often, but I don’t know if he means it romantically or platonically. I’m pretty sure it’s romantic from my end (but not sexual, since I’m ace), and I really like her too (right now just platonically). I am 100% open to a polyamorous relationship with the both of them, be it a V or a triad. Does it sound like the potential is there, or like it’s something I should talk to them about? Or should I stick to being just their friend, and work to get over him and move on?
This is completely new territory for me, my only other relationship was at the beginning of high school and was super short, I have no idea what I’m doing.
