Starcrossed
New member
Hello! I'm new here so I am introducing myself.
My husband (48) and I (40) have been married for 12 years and together for 15... we have recently made the decision to explore polyamory, though neither of us have actually acted on this decision yet. I'm looking for a welcoming, non-judgmental community for a sounding board and to meet like-minded people.
A bit about me and my journey... I am involved in the local renaissance faire, which has a very heavy overlap with the poly community, at least where I live, so I have lottttts of local acquaintances/friends in the poly community. I first learned about polyamory about 10 years ago, and have been contemplating it and really feeling drawn to it philosophically over the last 5 or so. I get crushes frequently and used to just quash them down like a dutiful monogamous wife. But since about 2016, I became increasingly uncomfortable with quashing feelings of love and declining to pursue positive, affection-based connections, when hate is everywhere and is allowed to run rampant. It started to feel almost immoral NOT to pursue these connections, while of course it would have ALSO been immoral to pursue them while in a monogamous relationship (and I never did). I struggled mightily with that paradox for quite awhile (did I mention I'm an INFJ?).
Enter the pandemic, when I (like many others) began to re-evaluate my priorities in life, and I decided it was finally time to talk about this with my spouse. I was very afraid I would hurt him or he would be angry, but he was very understanding. That conversation went about as well as it possibly could have gone. So, here we are!
My husband (48) and I (40) have been married for 12 years and together for 15... we have recently made the decision to explore polyamory, though neither of us have actually acted on this decision yet. I'm looking for a welcoming, non-judgmental community for a sounding board and to meet like-minded people.
A bit about me and my journey... I am involved in the local renaissance faire, which has a very heavy overlap with the poly community, at least where I live, so I have lottttts of local acquaintances/friends in the poly community. I first learned about polyamory about 10 years ago, and have been contemplating it and really feeling drawn to it philosophically over the last 5 or so. I get crushes frequently and used to just quash them down like a dutiful monogamous wife. But since about 2016, I became increasingly uncomfortable with quashing feelings of love and declining to pursue positive, affection-based connections, when hate is everywhere and is allowed to run rampant. It started to feel almost immoral NOT to pursue these connections, while of course it would have ALSO been immoral to pursue them while in a monogamous relationship (and I never did). I struggled mightily with that paradox for quite awhile (did I mention I'm an INFJ?).
Enter the pandemic, when I (like many others) began to re-evaluate my priorities in life, and I decided it was finally time to talk about this with my spouse. I was very afraid I would hurt him or he would be angry, but he was very understanding. That conversation went about as well as it possibly could have gone. So, here we are!