felixisdeft
New member
Hi! I'm Felix!
I used to be a cool guy! What happened?! Life, I suppose! Now, it's time to reclaim it as mine and find new freedom on the other side of...whatever this is!
As a person that has stayed away (deliberately) from social media and the grind of keeping up with the Jones', I'm finding it difficult to connect with other adults that I can connect with. My wife is great, but it shouldn't be her whole responsibility to meet those needs. I want to use swear words, talk about sex and pleasure, share dirty jokes, and enjoy some 420 activities. Is it too much to ask that someone else does too?
Where do people make friends when they are 40, have a young child, live in the Bible belt, and have no coworkers in a pandemic environment? It's not like I can walk down my street with a sign that says "Hi, I'm lonely. Want to be my friend?"! I'm finding myself in that oft talked about but rarely shared midlife crisis territory of life. I've played by the rules and have worked had to build a good life, and it is a good one! However, it is a little less than satisfying and it's time to build some new community and find some fun in life again, with others.
I've found myself at 40 having lost my community with friends and family alike. My family all lives out of state and my in-laws are disconnected. We left the church to think for ourselves free of misplaced guilt and shame. I've stopped drinking alcohol and have started exercising more. I work hard on restoring and remodeling my home. My cars run like tops because I built them to run that way. My hobbies are boring and solo, but I like them nonetheless. Video games, puzzles, music, movies, and more? Sign me up!
Now... If I just had some friends to do these things with....
I used to be a cool guy! What happened?! Life, I suppose! Now, it's time to reclaim it as mine and find new freedom on the other side of...whatever this is!
As a person that has stayed away (deliberately) from social media and the grind of keeping up with the Jones', I'm finding it difficult to connect with other adults that I can connect with. My wife is great, but it shouldn't be her whole responsibility to meet those needs. I want to use swear words, talk about sex and pleasure, share dirty jokes, and enjoy some 420 activities. Is it too much to ask that someone else does too?
Where do people make friends when they are 40, have a young child, live in the Bible belt, and have no coworkers in a pandemic environment? It's not like I can walk down my street with a sign that says "Hi, I'm lonely. Want to be my friend?"! I'm finding myself in that oft talked about but rarely shared midlife crisis territory of life. I've played by the rules and have worked had to build a good life, and it is a good one! However, it is a little less than satisfying and it's time to build some new community and find some fun in life again, with others.
I've found myself at 40 having lost my community with friends and family alike. My family all lives out of state and my in-laws are disconnected. We left the church to think for ourselves free of misplaced guilt and shame. I've stopped drinking alcohol and have started exercising more. I work hard on restoring and remodeling my home. My cars run like tops because I built them to run that way. My hobbies are boring and solo, but I like them nonetheless. Video games, puzzles, music, movies, and more? Sign me up!
Now... If I just had some friends to do these things with....
