Hey! I did see that one and almost chimed in but then decided against it. The situation is a tricky one and I think they are making it unnecessarily complicated by trying to conceive and have more than two male partners/PIV sex at the same time. I'm in a situation where my spouse and I both are not interested in conceiving; I am no longer able to. I ended up just telling my wife that I completely respect her choice about what to do if she gets pregnant, but that I was not going to be raising another child (paternity irrelevant at that point), so if she chose to proceed with a pregnancy, that would mean a hopefully amicable divorce. She took it pretty well!I remember not too long ago you having a thread in the relationship section about preparing for your spouse having sex with a meta I thought of posting this on there but remembered it was closed. I wonder if you caught this thread https://polyamory.com/threads/condoms-and-such.154261/. And being in that exploratory stage your opinion and perspective over there would be invaluable.
That said, I have to say, paternity still means something to me. I feel like I would feel different if I lived in a communal, hunter gatherer society where the village raised the child, but in our capitalist, nuclear family world, I am still socially conditioned to not want to raise someone else's child unless of course I consciously and freely choose to do by adoption or fostering (which I totally respect).