Omg right, I didn't fully realize parental disapproval (or at least lack of understanding) is still blocking me as well.
I'm making my parents sound like rigid monsters here, they are not! Imagine the stereotype of a the somewhat uptight upper-class British person with their lack of expression, some topics unsuitable for conversation and their dry sense of humor - that is still not them, but the atmosphere I grew up with goes somewhat in that direction.
If I'm going to do counseling, and specificly sex and relationships related counselling, that is so far removed from the values I grew up with. Not exactly in opposition to them - it's more like most of it falls into a complete blindspot.
- My family, including parents, grandparents and most uncles, is the prime example of committed, happy monogamy.
- Both sides of family have scientists and engineer's. We prefer evidence-based exact fields. This is more art than science!
- We don't talk about deeply personal topics in front of other people. It's not strictly forbidden, it just doesn't happen. (Even my sex-ed at home happened from a book, lol.)
- We rely on formal education.
- We don't trust anything sounding remotely "ezo"
(like biodynamic body-psychotherapy, which is not really mainstream)
The last two are a biggie, a huge source of self-doubt, because with little formal psychological training there's no clear boundary between what I'd be doing and the realms of fortune-tellers and self-taught "shamans".
I'm making my parents sound like rigid monsters here, they are not! Imagine the stereotype of a the somewhat uptight upper-class British person with their lack of expression, some topics unsuitable for conversation and their dry sense of humor - that is still not them, but the atmosphere I grew up with goes somewhat in that direction.
If I'm going to do counseling, and specificly sex and relationships related counselling, that is so far removed from the values I grew up with. Not exactly in opposition to them - it's more like most of it falls into a complete blindspot.
- My family, including parents, grandparents and most uncles, is the prime example of committed, happy monogamy.
- Both sides of family have scientists and engineer's. We prefer evidence-based exact fields. This is more art than science!
- We don't talk about deeply personal topics in front of other people. It's not strictly forbidden, it just doesn't happen. (Even my sex-ed at home happened from a book, lol.)
- We rely on formal education.
- We don't trust anything sounding remotely "ezo"
(like biodynamic body-psychotherapy, which is not really mainstream)The last two are a biggie, a huge source of self-doubt, because with little formal psychological training there's no clear boundary between what I'd be doing and the realms of fortune-tellers and self-taught "shamans".
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