Unapologetic unicorn hunter here..

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SryNotSry

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I have been in situations a few times where me and my SO have had fun with a 3rd, that have had nothing to do with the internet or online dating. Nothing ever turned into a relationship, but all went quite well and everyone enjoyed themselves..

I’m thinking about doing a little “unicorn hunting” again (recently learned this term), and have been looking into it online because I travel for work so much these days me and my SO don’t have much of a social life to meet people organically..

But WOW!
Y’all hate me? I’m “unethical”? Looking for something that is “great disadvantage” to anyone who may consider it? (From reading comments/posts)..

Oh.. Ok..

So us to offer something such as a week all expenses paid vacation including plane tickets to come along with us on our next outing to somewhere such as Las Vegas or a remote camping trip we go on is predatory?
Just for fun?

If anything was to develop further into some sort of relationship we are asking for too much to hope you fit in with US rather than just one or the other?
Even though we also have what I would consider to be great things to offer such as financial stability, a very optimistic future soon to be exited from the rat race, travel, etc., not to mention that I would consider both of us to be quite good “catches”..

I mean, she is not a supermodel at first glance, but very pleasing to the eyes.. I love it when she gets hit on :)
To me she is amazing, the best girl I’ve ever had my hands on, for so many reasons you would not know from the outside looking in.. Her intimacy is 20/10.. Best tasting girl in the world.. We have the best sex life ever (ask her)..

I am a quite good looking, in decent shape, active, well proportioned, very competent guy, and we have our shit together MUCH better than most people..
Intimately, I like to be modest, but my “kink” is and always has been pleasuring, and I’ll leave it at that to not feel like I’m being conceited..

I especially am all about travel, adventure, and experiences.. I want to go everywhere and try every kind of food and see all I can..

But we/I am/are some sort of unethical monsters for wanting to also keep exploring sexually?
Wow..

No, I don’t think so..

If anything I feel we are/would be offering someone a great opportunity..

Change my mind..


And really, this is way more about her than me..
For one she is more picky than me..
I have my preferred type (which she is), but I am open to much more.. Her on the other hand might have more specialized taste/picky..
It would also be much more important for any possibility to converse and bond with her than with me..
The only way I want to ever meet with a possible 3rd is if she, my SO, WANTS to..
This is not a “get her to go along with it” thing, it’s all about her enjoyment (my kink)..

If anything were to develope into more than just a fun outing, I would mostly want for someone to keep her (my SO) company, happy, and not neglected while I am gone so much..

I feel bad being away from her so much but it is my life choice to hit it hard, fast, and early to hopefully retire MUCH earlier than most.. Maybe only another 5-8 years of rat race..

We are M30/F29 btw..

So..
Are we bad people?
 
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No. There is no point trying to change your mind. Go right ahead and find your playmate. Be that happy whatever it ends up being.

Then get back to us down the road and tell us it was all perfect.

Change our minds.
 
Welcome.

Y’all hate me? I’m “unethical”? Looking for something that is “great disadvantage” to anyone who may consider it? (From reading comments/posts)..
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I don't hate you. I don't know you.

I could be wrong, but you sound like you are getting a bit upset over reading about other people's experiences or thoughts. Why's it upsetting though? They don't automatically have to be your experiences or thoughts.

You go ahead and do you. It's fine for you and wife to keep on exploring each of your own sexuality. What you offer and how you approach it might be just fine. Hopefully you and wife will find the long term partner you seek that gets on with both of you.

At the same time? Your style of doing it doesn't negate that some people approach unicorn hunting in less than ethical ways and end up making a big mess of it. So people you maybe end up dating later have now become leery of a unicorn situation because they got burned in the past. So maybe it is just something to be aware of?

Sometimes it's the unicorn that makes a mess of it. So you have to be on the look out for that too.

Any kind of dating comes with its pros and cons.

Galagirl
 
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SryNotSry said:
I have been in situations a few times where me and my SO have had fun with a 3rd, that have had nothing to do with the internet or online dating. Nothing ever turned into a relationship, but all went quite well and everyone enjoyed themselves..

I’m thinking about doing a little “unicorn hunting” again (recently learned this term), and have been looking into it online because I travel for work so much these days me and my SO don’t have much of a social life to meet people organically..

But WOW!
Y’all hate me? I’m “unethical”? Looking for something that is “great disadvantage” to anyone who may consider it? (From reading comments/posts)..

Oh.. Ok..

So us to offer something such as a week all expenses paid vacation including plane tickets to come along with us on our next outing to somewhere such as Las Vegas or a remote camping trip we go on is predatory?
Just for fun?

If anything was to develop further into some sort of relationship we are asking for too much to hope you fit in with US rather than just one or the other?
Even though we also have what I would consider to be great things to offer such as financial stability, a very optimistic future soon to be exited from the rat race, travel, etc., not to mention that I would consider both of us to be quite good “catches”..

I mean, she is not a supermodel at first glance, but very pleasing to the eyes.. I love it when she gets hit on :)
To me she is amazing, the best girl I’ve ever had my hands on, for so many reasons you would not know from the outside looking in.. Her intimacy is 20/10.. Best tasting girl in the world.. We have the best sex life ever (ask her)..

I am a quite good looking, in decent shape, active, well proportioned, very competent guy, and we have our shit together MUCH better than most people..
Intimately, I like to be modest, but my “kink” is and always has been pleasuring, and I’ll leave it at that to not feel like I’m being conceited..

I especially am all about travel, adventure, and experiences.. I want to go everywhere and try every kind of food and see all I can..

But we/I am/are some sort of unethical monsters for wanting to also keep exploring sexually?
Wow..

No, I don’t think so..

If anything I feel we are/would be offering someone a great opportunity..

Change my mind..


And really, this is way more about her than me..
For one she is more picky than me..
I have my preferred type (which she is), but I am open to much more.. Her on the other hand might have more specialized taste/picky..
It would also be much more important for any possibility to converse and bond with her than with me..
The only way I want to ever meet with a possible 3rd is if she, my SO, WANTS to..
This is not a “get her to go along with it” thing, it’s all about her enjoyment (my kink)..

If anything were to develope into more than just a fun outing, I would mostly want for someone to keep her (my SO) company, happy, and not neglected while I am gone so much..

I feel bad being away from her so much but it is my life choice to hit it hard, fast, and early to hopefully retire MUCH earlier than most.. Maybe only another 5-8 years of rat race..

We are M30/F29 btw..

So..
Are we bad people?
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I share a lot of your same thoughts. I might not travel but I only see the SO for more than 30 minutes on Fridays.

Working off hours, 6 days a week, my day of rest is hers end of the week. We want to try this and expand our sexual limits. Couples, addl males or females it's a new frontier that we are looking forward to try.

We don't need anything expensive just something fun and enjoyable drinks, dinner companionship for all involved. Yes sex with all parties is weighed but no one needs to feel rushed fun and satisfaction of the SO is primary.
 
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I was.. maybe still am in some instances a unicorn hunter (although to be fair, I am not looking for that kind exclusivity anymore, so maybe not a unicorn hunter now a days, I just dont find offence with the term and threesomes are fun as fuck). I have been a successful unicorn hunter for close to 20 years. Your intro, in so many ways reads like I have/had been. No hate here as long as everyone is respectful.

Some thoughts, a lot of your post is defensive (understandable in this climate sometimes) and you are justifying a third by offering
  1. sexual pleasure
  2. travel (and finances)
  3. Sensual bottom.. ish.. (your fetish reads like this, so maybe a sensual top is what you want)
Nowhere do you mention, love affection, intimacy (sexual pleasure isn't intimacy, it can be but isn't required) connection. If you are looking for a third to love, then those elements are missing and your potential third will notice, unless they aren't looking for love.

Your post reads like a swinger... or straight up informed ENM which is just plain awesome fun. :)... Can result in "poly" but doesn't have to. All those things I list above (intimacy etc) all create the feelings that convert a great fuck to a lover.

Are we bad people?
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Nope, not at all, enjoy the fun times. Sometimes I miss the simplicity. Maybe some self reflection of your goals and how to get there.

And dont let the naysayers break your balls, good luck, you do you.

Where people get pissed is when the secondary is treated as disposable, a triad is 4 relationships... something to keep in mind

  • All three
  • You and the "secondary"
  • Secondary and primary
  • you and primary
Maintaining something that is fair, equitable and FEELS fair and equitable for all is tough work.

Good luck and welcome
 
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“Nowhere do you mention, love affection, intimacy (sexual pleasure isn't intimacy, it can be but isn't required) connection. If you are looking for a third to love, then those elements are missing and your potential third will notice, unless they aren't looking for love.”


Nope, not really looking for that, but if it happened I suppose I wouldn’t be against it..

I’m not sure “seeking love” is such a great idea.. I kinda don’t think that it is something you can find on purpose no matter how hard you try but tends to be something that randomly just happens..

Trying to force-find love doesn’t sound like a good plan..

I have that incredibly true love with my girl, I am so greatful for it to have came into my life.. It is amazing..
But I can surely say that “true love” wasn’t what I was searching for when I found her ;)
As a matter of fact we were BOTH trying NOT to get into a relationship at all, both trying to hold our feelings back, until we were just so overwhelmed we couldn’t help it anymore..

The night of the camping trip with her dancing in nothing but her nighty by the fire after us getting stuck and walking like a half mile through the woods in the middle of the night back to camp was my breaking point where I finally had to proclame my love to her, which she immediately confirmed..

We are like stupid in love..
 
SryNotSry said:
“Nowhere do you mention, love affection, intimacy (sexual pleasure isn't intimacy, it can be but isn't required) connection. If you are looking for a third to love, then those elements are missing and your potential third will notice, unless they aren't looking for love.”


Nope, not really looking for that, but if it happened I suppose I wouldn’t be against it..

I’m not sure “seeking love” is such a great idea.. I kinda don’t think that it is something you can find on purpose no matter how hard you try but tends to be something that randomly just happens..
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Agreed. :)

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Trying to force-find love doesn’t sound like a good plan..
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It is a terrible idea haha

SryNotSry said:
I have that incredibly true love with my girl, I am so greatful for it to have came into my life.. It is amazing..
But I can surely say that “true love” wasn’t what I was searching for when I found her ;)
As a matter of fact we were BOTH trying NOT to get into a relationship at all, both trying to hold our feelings back, until we were just so overwhelmed we couldn’t help it anymore..

The night of the camping trip with her dancing in nothing but her nighty by the fire after us getting stuck and walking like a half mile through the woods in the middle of the night back to camp was my breaking point where I finally had to proclame my love to her, which she immediately confirmed..

We are like stupid in love..
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Thats fucking delightful. Sounds amazing, I really love that feeling when things align and it falls in your lap (in some ways literally). :)
 
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