TheModernDeath
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So I am dating two people. One is named BB. The other is named Alex. Both are poly and have other relationships.
I am new to polyamory, but I enjoy it quite a bit! It gives me room to be with those I love while meeting new people. I love BB and Alex equally, and both are just as important as the other. I like learning about each one individually, and our time spent together is unique. Honestly, I feel like the luckiest girl in the world!
However, I have learned, very quickly, that each one of our boundaries is very different. I am pretty flexible. I am okay with BB and Alex's other relationships. I am okay with them having sex. I am okay with them talking about it. I am okay with them flirting with other people. I am okay with expressing who we think is hot. My partners are NOT like this, though. Their boundaries are pretty strict.
Alex is pretty forgiving and bounces back pretty fast. Overall, he's not a very jealous person.
BB, on the other hand, is very very jealous, and very insecure. He demands a lot of attention in the relationship, and this pisses Alex off. They'll fight about it, and I don't know what to do. I confronted BB about this, and he admits he's in the wrong. Regardless, he gets so sad. We definitely need to establish boundaries somehow so this won't keep happening, but I don't know how. I am SO new to this.
Things like diagrams, lists, and questions help a lot in our relationships. We did one for consent (I am Asexual) and it went super well.
Does anyone know of any good questions or guidelines to offer your partner? Seems stupid, but I don't know what to ask!
I am new to polyamory, but I enjoy it quite a bit! It gives me room to be with those I love while meeting new people. I love BB and Alex equally, and both are just as important as the other. I like learning about each one individually, and our time spent together is unique. Honestly, I feel like the luckiest girl in the world!
However, I have learned, very quickly, that each one of our boundaries is very different. I am pretty flexible. I am okay with BB and Alex's other relationships. I am okay with them having sex. I am okay with them talking about it. I am okay with them flirting with other people. I am okay with expressing who we think is hot. My partners are NOT like this, though. Their boundaries are pretty strict.
Alex is pretty forgiving and bounces back pretty fast. Overall, he's not a very jealous person.
BB, on the other hand, is very very jealous, and very insecure. He demands a lot of attention in the relationship, and this pisses Alex off. They'll fight about it, and I don't know what to do. I confronted BB about this, and he admits he's in the wrong. Regardless, he gets so sad. We definitely need to establish boundaries somehow so this won't keep happening, but I don't know how. I am SO new to this.
Things like diagrams, lists, and questions help a lot in our relationships. We did one for consent (I am Asexual) and it went super well.
Does anyone know of any good questions or guidelines to offer your partner? Seems stupid, but I don't know what to ask!
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