Vocabulary update discussion: "polysexual"

[Magdlyn]

There is always an underdog. Gays have more rights now. They can get married. Gay Pride has gone mainstream.

Now the right wing is attacking transsexual people.

And "queers" (in colleges? on Reddit? Twitter?) seem to think they own the term "polysexual." So the polyamorous community can just suck it.

 

[Tinwen]

I didn't look through podcast stuff, just hit up Google Scholar for a couple of hours.

And our own search function.

I didn't do reddit, either. And I'm not familiar enough with other poly communities to search them all.

I just did 2 hours or so and we both know that's barely scratching the surface, academically.

Thanks for doing that!

I myself didn't read the books regularly recommended here and I don't listen to podcasts either, so I also just don't know if "polysexual" is in use outside of the forum.
If it is, I may try and pick up the wikipedia fight, but I don't want to push a forum neologism that we just convinced ourselves is a thing.

 

[Magdlyn]

I just stumbled across a thread from 2013, called "Polysexual."

https://polyamory.com/threads/new-to-polysexual-relationships.55553/

I just recently opened my heart and my mind to having a monoamorous/polysexual relationship,...

and

Monoamorous/polysexual is "swinging." Essentially you would be a couple who takes on sex partners, but somehow manages to not fall in love...

 

[Evie]

Sounds like the consensus is we'll just keep using it the way we do until the dictionaries catch up.

We certainly do need a term that refers to the desire and/or ability to maintain multiple concurrent sexual relationships with the knowledge and consent of all involved. I personally wouldn't call them loveless, but I'd say they were so far off the relationship escalator that they are generally not ever going to be perceived as a dyad relationship.