More-amore
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How many are truly poly and how many are still finding out what that means ?
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Since there's no one right way of being "truly poly" it's a bit of a moving target.
However, I am pretty fond of the yardstick that if you're not prepared to make your metamour (your partner's partner) one of the first few calls in event of emergency or the death of your shared partner, you're not actually ready for polyamory. Polyamory isn't about who's shagging whom. It's about who's loving whom and the respect that each relationship is given by everyone in the polycule. Furthermore, polyamory isn't just about a person's capacity to love many people intimately or romantically at the same time, it's also about being comfortable having your partner doing the same.
How many actually get that? Who knows. I'd say our regulars here do, from what I read. But we are a tiny, tiny sample of poly people in this world. And we also don't agree on a lot of things, because again, there's no "one truly poly".
However, I am pretty fond of the yardstick that if you're not prepared to make your metamour (your partner's partner) one of the first few calls in event of emergency or the death of your shared partner, you're not actually ready for polyamory. Polyamory isn't about who's shagging whom. It's about who's loving whom and the respect that each relationship is given by everyone in the polycule. Furthermore, polyamory isn't just about a person's capacity to love many people intimately or romantically at the same time, it's also about being comfortable having your partner doing the same.
How many actually get that? Who knows. I'd say our regulars here do, from what I read. But we are a tiny, tiny sample of poly people in this world. And we also don't agree on a lot of things, because again, there's no "one truly poly".
Hello More-amore,
Poly is multiple romantic relationships, with the consent of all within that romantic network. So if someone has more than one romantic partner, and both/all partners consent to it, then that is truly poly. Without that consent, the participants are still finding out what poly means.
Regards,
Kevin T.
Poly is multiple romantic relationships, with the consent of all within that romantic network. So if someone has more than one romantic partner, and both/all partners consent to it, then that is truly poly. Without that consent, the participants are still finding out what poly means.
Regards,
Kevin T.