J and C from the West Coast.
One night, while engaged in sexual play, J whispers to C that she wants to have him watch her have sex with another woman. Needless to say, hearing the lust in her voice and the mental images that were conjured by her words led to some passionate sex. A few weeks later, a similar scene… and again and again. Thinking it was just dirty talk, nothing more than a fantasy, C never pursued it. Fast forward to about a year later, J repeated the words. The couple discussed it a few days later and J admitted to C that this is something she wants to pursue.
So, to answer the question of “Why are we here?” it is because J is in a committed relationship with an amazing man who loves seeing her needs met and she would like to explore that side of her sexuality.
Who are we beyond that? Two working professionals with children and dogs. (Sometimes it’s debatable which ones we love more.) J is into gardening, cooking, and putting her family first. C enjoys books, the outdoors, and getting consumed by projects. They are definitely two sides of the same coin. She is the extrovert; he is the introvert. She loves trying new experiences; it takes him a while to warm up to them.
When it comes to the poly lifestyle, we are definitely newbies to it all. We’ve had several conversations about what the introduction of someone else would do to the dynamic of our marriage, but, without going through with it, we’ll never know if it is something we would want to continue or discover that we prefer a monogamous-only relationship. We’ve read articles online, but you can only learn so much, particularly when most articles are opinion pieces or too subjective because they’re from a relationship expert. (And the threads on Reddit don’t help.)
We’re here to delve into the expertise of those that actually live the lifestyle. It’s the next step in our journey towards entering the poly community. If you’re reading this, thank you for allowing us to join. Any advice is welcome. And, if our involvement here leads to better insight, and even establishing a new erotic friendship with someone, then we are excited to see where those possibilities lie.
Post-script:
As we both have jobs that would be defined as leaning towards a more conservative nature and we are involved in areas that involve our children, we hope that our decision to use J and C as our names and not post pictures of ourselves or family members is respected. We thank you for your understanding.
One night, while engaged in sexual play, J whispers to C that she wants to have him watch her have sex with another woman. Needless to say, hearing the lust in her voice and the mental images that were conjured by her words led to some passionate sex. A few weeks later, a similar scene… and again and again. Thinking it was just dirty talk, nothing more than a fantasy, C never pursued it. Fast forward to about a year later, J repeated the words. The couple discussed it a few days later and J admitted to C that this is something she wants to pursue.
So, to answer the question of “Why are we here?” it is because J is in a committed relationship with an amazing man who loves seeing her needs met and she would like to explore that side of her sexuality.
Who are we beyond that? Two working professionals with children and dogs. (Sometimes it’s debatable which ones we love more.) J is into gardening, cooking, and putting her family first. C enjoys books, the outdoors, and getting consumed by projects. They are definitely two sides of the same coin. She is the extrovert; he is the introvert. She loves trying new experiences; it takes him a while to warm up to them.
When it comes to the poly lifestyle, we are definitely newbies to it all. We’ve had several conversations about what the introduction of someone else would do to the dynamic of our marriage, but, without going through with it, we’ll never know if it is something we would want to continue or discover that we prefer a monogamous-only relationship. We’ve read articles online, but you can only learn so much, particularly when most articles are opinion pieces or too subjective because they’re from a relationship expert. (And the threads on Reddit don’t help.)
We’re here to delve into the expertise of those that actually live the lifestyle. It’s the next step in our journey towards entering the poly community. If you’re reading this, thank you for allowing us to join. Any advice is welcome. And, if our involvement here leads to better insight, and even establishing a new erotic friendship with someone, then we are excited to see where those possibilities lie.
Post-script:
As we both have jobs that would be defined as leaning towards a more conservative nature and we are involved in areas that involve our children, we hope that our decision to use J and C as our names and not post pictures of ourselves or family members is respected. We thank you for your understanding.
