Rewind 3 decades and I'll say I was always into multi girlfriends even if they didn't know about each other yeah didn't know back then. But always had the tendency for multiple just in the last 14 years it's been a dry spell because of personal issues.
I am a single female & have been thinking about having brother husbands for a few years. Im really not sure how the whole situation works. I know men are all about sister wives, but what about brother husbands? Any information would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance
I am a single female & have been thinking about having brother husbands for a few years. Im really not sure how the whole situation works. I know men are all about sister wives, but what about brother husbands? Any information would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance
I am a single female & have been thinking about having brother husbands for a few years. Im really not sure how the whole situation works. I know men are all about sister wives, but what about brother husbands? Any information would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance
MFM V configuration relationships are one of the most common in polyamory (where a woman has two male partners but those men are not involved with one another.) It's less common that they would all live under a shared roof as a family, although we have and have had members here who do precisely that.
MFM V configuration relationships are one of the most common in polyamory (where a woman has two male partners but those men are not involved with one another.) It's less common that they would all live under a shared roof as a family, although we have and have had members here who do precisely that.
I see so much one male wanting 2f these days. It's just an observation on my part but my brain works by patterns i see. I have seen 1f 2m before. So it's definitely a match over which is more common. I don't see too many 2m2f,3f,3m ect. It might come more down to regon or many other factors.
I see so much one male wanting 2f these days. It's just an observation on my part but my brain works by patterns i see. I have seen 1f 2m before. So it's definitely a match over which is more common. I don't see too many 2m2f,3f,3m ect. It might come more down to regon or many other factors.
I am a single female & have been thinking about having brother husbands for a few years. Im really not sure how the whole situation works. I know men are all about sister wives, but what about brother husbands? Any information would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance
A woman with 2 men in a V relationship is the most common structure in polyamory. (The men don’t have a romantic or sexual relationship.) I have two husbands, and we live together. There are certainly many posts to read here - what information are you looking for?
I needed to have more coffee to understand what you meant here. Men want to have a FMF relationship, but they don't often get one. Women want to have a MFM relationship, and they often make that happen?
BTW, I think there are plenty of MMM triads out there, or at least gay men in open relationships who have casual sex with other men on the side. This is a longstanding tradition in the gay community. It slowed down some during the AIDs crisis, but I believe it's become pretty common again, with new meds and more use of condoms.
Heheh this is best enjoyed with a cup of coffee or *tea.*
I think what Evie so elegantly and precisely pointed out is that Teneb was counting how many times he saw people expressing interested in FMF arrangements rather than stories of actually being in one; meanwhile in reality, MFM combos exist with such frequency it’s hard not to trip over one. You almost have to be willfully ignorant to not see the discrepancy.
EVERY man goes through a period of unreasonably wanting the world (it’s called puberty). Women live in the real world where they have to learn how to get what they want because no one will ever hand it to them. (This is all presumptively western and very intentionally, melodramatically sexist. Elegance and nuance do not always live together)
The literal reality of waking human experience for a majority of humans (who are women) is that they have to work their asses off to get anything while men complain about not having more.
Mag, I’d be curious if this translates over to gay and lesbian communities. I know there’s the U-Haul Lesbian stereotype, but I actually have NO idea if women in purely homosexual, non monogamous relationships are more frequent than their male counterparts. I’d theorize that they would be, but idk if there’s any data to be found and I’m too lazy to google that right now.
Mag, I’d be curious if this translates over to gay and lesbian communities. I know there’s the U-Haul Lesbian stereotype, but I actually have NO idea if women in purely homosexual, non monogamous relationships are more frequent than their male counterparts. I’d theorize that they would be, but idk if there’s any data to be found and I’m too lazy to google that right now.
I'm gonna answer this, having been in a few long-term r'ships with gay women, having been both poly and mono, and because I spent most of my adulthood very active in LGBTQ society. Most of the lesbians I've ever known were monogamous. I've crossed very, very few gay women willing to entertain polyamory or ENM, whereas in gay male culture, having some measure of sexual openness seems fairly common. I'm not entirely sure why, unless we were to conclude that women are more naturally monogamous, which I am not comfortable concluding. Especially not here, lol.
Mag, I’d be curious if this translates over to gay and lesbian communities. I know there’s the U-Haul Lesbian stereotype, but I actually have NO idea if women in purely homosexual, non monogamous relationships are more frequent than their male counterparts. I’d theorize that they would be, but idk if there’s any data to be found and I’m too lazy to google that right now.
I'm gonna go with what LoveBunny said. I'm no expert on lesbian society, as I've always been non-binary, pansexual and polyamorous at heart. I was in a "F"-M mono relationship during my child-rearing years, but I'm from an older generation where my options just weren't as broad as they became in the new millennium.
I've been closer friends with gay men than with women who were strictly lesbian, and I haven't deeply studied the topic. I've seen lesbians say that unless they live in a very large city, their lesbian communities are so small and tight that you get to a point where everyone has dated everyone else, but generally in a serially-monoamorous way.
I must say I've known quite a few polyamorous transgender or non-binary/gender non-conforming people, though.
And I think sometimes butch lesbians who transition to male get in trouble in otherwise good marriages to their cis-gendered wives, so might stay married and yet find themselves craving new relationships. Or the cis-wives are decidedly lesbian and become uncomfortable being married to a man, while still loving their now-husband, etc. It's complicated.
When I was a child, I read some "soft porn" novels about women who would freely "sleep around" (the phrase used then) so I guess I grew up not expecting monogamy - at least informally. In the early 80s, I read a small book "Open Marriage", that both scared and excited me, but I soon discovered that bringing up the topic meant an end to the relationship. More recently, I read about a minority group in the southwest of China that allows women to have more than one husband...more interest...I have had relationships with a couple of married women (in secret) and have seen how that benefited all three of us, but I never liked the dishonesty involved...so..when I heard about poly...well, here I am.
Great question I love hearing how people find their way here!
For me it was honestly a slow realisation over years. I kept feeling constrained in monogamous relationships but didn't really have language for it until I stumbled across ENM communities online. suddenly a lot of things clicked. !hat drew me to actually making it my own was realizing it aligned with how I naturally relate to people. I don't think love is finite and the idea of building something honest and intentional with multiple people just resonated more than the traditional script.
