Jameshumber
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Do any of you guys make any rules when letting another man in to your lives?
Wife taking in a work colleague
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The basics are communicate communicate communicate. Before she starts dating, do lots of reading and research, and honestly discuss EVERYTHING. Be real and raw.
Then, when someone starts dating, practice safer sex (get tested for STDs and always use condoms). Don't overshare details of each other's dates with the other. Make good fair dating schedules and stick to them. Be compassionate and respectful.
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Then, when someone starts dating, practice safer sex (get tested for STDs and always use condoms). Don't overshare details of each other's dates with the other. Make good fair dating schedules and stick to them. Be compassionate and respectful.
Here's a comprehensive list of prior merged threads on common poly topics. Take a look.
Here is our fantastic reading list, which also includes a podcast.
Hello Jameshumber,
Sometimes you need rules, sometimes not. For example, you may need some rules right now, as you are just starting out. Like having training wheels on a bike. Later on, as poly gets easier, you may feel that you can relax some of those rules. Change some of them into guidelines perhaps. Everyone is different, so every relationship is unique. You will need to decide what (if any) rules work for you.
Regards,
Kevin T.
Sometimes you need rules, sometimes not. For example, you may need some rules right now, as you are just starting out. Like having training wheels on a bike. Later on, as poly gets easier, you may feel that you can relax some of those rules. Change some of them into guidelines perhaps. Everyone is different, so every relationship is unique. You will need to decide what (if any) rules work for you.
Regards,
Kevin T.