Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!
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sigh, I sign in to OKC just now, and see I have messages from 11 men in 24 hours. That's a rather high number for me. A little exciting. Let's see...
One was from a guy I've been chatting with, a local guy in Massachusetts. OK.
The others were from Missouri, Colorado, Florida, California, Washington DC, England, and Algeria! 2 were requests for "online naughtiness." One was from some kind of name like "discreet man" who said he read my profile and sees I have a live-in gf and he laughed because we have something in common. I guess he thinks I am a cheater like him? "Discreet," and no photo. And his was the most interesting message on there.
Bleh. Losers, all.
One was from a guy I've been chatting with, a local guy in Massachusetts. OK.
The others were from Missouri, Colorado, Florida, California, Washington DC, England, and Algeria! 2 were requests for "online naughtiness." One was from some kind of name like "discreet man" who said he read my profile and sees I have a live-in gf and he laughed because we have something in common. I guess he thinks I am a cheater like him? "Discreet," and no photo. And his was the most interesting message on there.
Bleh. Losers, all.
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I actually got a good message from a nice man today, who impressed me so much with his intelligence and humor and implied sexuality, we made a dinner date for tonight!
Had a bunch more messages today as well. One other one was kind of good. Plus I have had 2 dates with a guy who chatted me up a year ago, and fell out of contact because his life got complicated for a while. So, for once, I am not complaining!
Had a bunch more messages today as well. One other one was kind of good. Plus I have had 2 dates with a guy who chatted me up a year ago, and fell out of contact because his life got complicated for a while. So, for once, I am not complaining!
opalescent
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Yeah, actually OKC has been pretty good to me lately. I have some dates I'm looking forward to and have been chatting with a non-romantic friend.
Ugh, he was so not what he sold me on in his profile, Q&As and chat! His profile said he was "fit" and "mostly vegetarian," but he was fat and ate thick New England clam chowder and chicken. His profile said he was funny, but he only smiled at me once! Did not make me laugh. He had this frowny look the whole time.
He ignored my attempts at contributing to the conversation, he flirted inappropriately with the waitress (then he did smile), and was racist to her. She was a light skinned black woman, and he asked her "Where are you from?" Then he told her a long boring story about another light skinned black woman he once flirted with. I wanted to crawl under the table. I hope he tipped her well.
At the end of the boring dinner, he asked me if I liked him and did I want to see him again, and I answered truthfully, which was so awkward! Jeez. I said, "You looked so serious the whole time." He said, "Well, I am looking for a serious relationship. And you said you were too." I said, "Well, I am open to that if it happens, but a first date should be light and fun and flirty!" Jeez.
One and done.
Oh, Magdlyn, ugh about the date! Why do people misrepresent themselves like that? Do they think no one's going to notice when they finally meet??
I had a message a few days ago from a guy who said his wife is "begrudgingly participating" in him being poly while she's monogamous. I ended the conversation after a few minutes because I'm not gonna get involved with anyone who has another partner who's "begrudging."
On the plus side, I've been messaging back and forth with a few guys who might actually be decent human beings. One has made it clear that he doesn't think, based on my profile, that we would click romantically, but he thinks we could be good friends. Which is cool; I can always use more friends.
Another lives too far away (from his perspective) for us to meet, though he's within my comfortable travel range. That conversation's working well because he seems to know a lot about BDSM but little about poly, while I'm the other way around, so we're trading knowledge.
The third answered my initial message with "Well, I guess we might as well strike up a conversation," which didn't sound too promising, but the conversation has developed into something entertaining and comfortable. And he's only a few miles from me.
I had a message a few days ago from a guy who said his wife is "begrudgingly participating" in him being poly while she's monogamous. I ended the conversation after a few minutes because I'm not gonna get involved with anyone who has another partner who's "begrudging."
On the plus side, I've been messaging back and forth with a few guys who might actually be decent human beings. One has made it clear that he doesn't think, based on my profile, that we would click romantically, but he thinks we could be good friends. Which is cool; I can always use more friends.
Another lives too far away (from his perspective) for us to meet, though he's within my comfortable travel range. That conversation's working well because he seems to know a lot about BDSM but little about poly, while I'm the other way around, so we're trading knowledge.
The third answered my initial message with "Well, I guess we might as well strike up a conversation," which didn't sound too promising, but the conversation has developed into something entertaining and comfortable. And he's only a few miles from me.
FallenAngelina
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Aside from "vegetarians" eating chicken, I think a lot of people honestly see themselves in the way they portray on their profile and don't realize how they come off in person. Everyone thinks of him/herself as "honest" and "open" and "reasonably attractive" and "fun" and "not a game player," so it's silly to even state that this is what you (general you) want. I've had a similar experience to Mag's in which a self proclaimed "funny" guy was dull as dirt. Conversely, I'm reeling from having recently met a man who in person makes my head spin in every way and whose profile makes him seem like Mr. Average. I've come across very few people (if any..?) who are purposely setting out to deceive others. A lot of people just don't know themselves very well and then there's the whole chemistry thing. Someone's Mr. Boring is another person's Boom-shakalaka.
I was talking more about him describing himself as "fit" when his physical appearance didn't match the definition of that word, and the food that didn't match his claim of being vegetarian.
Though to be fair about the last one, I've known some people who call themselves vegetarian, or "mostly vegetarian" but actually mean only that they don't eat red meat or pork; poultry and seafood is part of their diet.
Though to be fair about the last one, I've known some people who call themselves vegetarian, or "mostly vegetarian" but actually mean only that they don't eat red meat or pork; poultry and seafood is part of their diet.
Yes, he told me he'd been diagnosed with diabetes and had lost 70 lbs, so only being as fat as he is must have felt fit to him. Also, he told me he didn't eat carbs... he didn't know that the potatoes and flour in his clam chowder were carbs? He pointed out to me how he wasn't going to eat the grilled bread that came with the salad. Oh, good boy. 
But whatever, I am not dissing fat people, I am overweight myself. If he'd been more fun it wouldn't have mattered.
But whatever, I am not dissing fat people, I am overweight myself. If he'd been more fun it wouldn't have mattered.
Another dozen messages this morning. From: Egypt, Montreal, Turkey, Greece, Las Vegas, NYC, North Carolina. Also 2 guys who have chatted me before, and one that I had one date with, that I have no interest in. One local guy who seems kind of cool, kinky and bi, but his Q&As express approval of cheating.
edit: he's not really a cheater, he was just trying to present as a "slut," is interested in poly and kink but needs experience. He's only 33.
edit: he's not really a cheater, he was just trying to present as a "slut," is interested in poly and kink but needs experience. He's only 33.
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PinkPig
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It does. That's what I think, too. I'm not sure what happens to your profile when you allow your 'paid' subscription run out?
