sage
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Hi LostRane
Well guess what? I have been in a poly/mono relationship for three years. I blog about it on www.polyamorouspeople.com I've even written an e-book on it, and I still wonder if I'm cut out for it, so you aren't alone. Most of us, if not all of us on this journey have these thoughts from time to time but if the relationship is strong and you are both working at it they get less. I find it helps to put these kinds of thoughts into perspective: my poly/mono relationship is not the only thing in my life I have had second thoughts about, it happens a lot over a great many things.
Jealousy is an ongoing issue that needs to be looked at and worked through. Generally jealousy is a symptom of something else being out of alignment. If you can work out what that something else is you should be about to lessen the jealousy. Sounds like for you it is about asserting your needs and you're working on it. Keep going, Rome wasn't built in a day.
I know you've done a lot of reading but I've recorded my whole process of coming to terms with this in my blog for people just like you. The process seems similar for most people and it becomes very time consuming to repeat if for everyone. Check out the earlier posts as these chronicle the earlier days. I still have my moments, but all in all our relationship is now very strong and happy. There are just no quick fixes, it's a process.
I wish you well and if you have any more questions you can always find me here or there.
Well guess what? I have been in a poly/mono relationship for three years. I blog about it on www.polyamorouspeople.com I've even written an e-book on it, and I still wonder if I'm cut out for it, so you aren't alone. Most of us, if not all of us on this journey have these thoughts from time to time but if the relationship is strong and you are both working at it they get less. I find it helps to put these kinds of thoughts into perspective: my poly/mono relationship is not the only thing in my life I have had second thoughts about, it happens a lot over a great many things.
Jealousy is an ongoing issue that needs to be looked at and worked through. Generally jealousy is a symptom of something else being out of alignment. If you can work out what that something else is you should be about to lessen the jealousy. Sounds like for you it is about asserting your needs and you're working on it. Keep going, Rome wasn't built in a day.
I know you've done a lot of reading but I've recorded my whole process of coming to terms with this in my blog for people just like you. The process seems similar for most people and it becomes very time consuming to repeat if for everyone. Check out the earlier posts as these chronicle the earlier days. I still have my moments, but all in all our relationship is now very strong and happy. There are just no quick fixes, it's a process.
I wish you well and if you have any more questions you can always find me here or there.